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09 Dec 2014, 2:31 pm

8. I can force myself to, but it's confusing, exhausting, and really really difficult. I've come to realise that for many people they need it in order to form a connection, so I force myself to do it despite the difficulty.

All that being said, when someone in a movie looks directly at the camera, I usually walk out of the room. Magazine adverts like that will force me to put them down.


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09 Dec 2014, 2:35 pm

I can do it, but it is very uncomfortable for me, especially if I'm looking at someone with asymmetric details in their eyes or face. I can feel my eyes wandering as they focus on all the different details. I get real frigidity and have to connect my hands or arms.

I have no idea how to rate my ability.

I'm usually okay with it on the approach, and then it falls apart when verbal communication starts. I naturally just look away as soon as they address me. I'm okay if the conversation isn't on me because it seems like ordinary people break away when they start talking.



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09 Dec 2014, 2:47 pm

When I was a teenager or young adult - it was probably about eight. By my mid twenties it probably was probably about 5. By my mid thirties and still now it is probably about 3.

I had to edit this because I got the scoring backwards. :(


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09 Dec 2014, 7:32 pm

I just don't.



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09 Dec 2014, 11:09 pm

5ish. I don't really make the contact though so it's not too big a deal. I look at the speaker's mouth. Have you tried that?


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09 Dec 2014, 11:29 pm

9 or 10 with people I've just met
6 or 7 with friends
1 or 2 with someone I'm in a relationship with



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09 Dec 2014, 11:47 pm

2, as my social skills are minimal.


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10 Dec 2014, 12:18 am

I'm a 7 or 8.



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10 Dec 2014, 12:18 am

10. Don't.

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10 Dec 2014, 2:11 am

If the other person is talking, a 2 or 3 if I'm talking, a 10, even if the person I'm talking to is my mom. Eye-contact sucks.


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10 Dec 2014, 2:31 am

Well, I never really look directly into people's eyes unless I'm consciously making an effort to, at which point I lose the ability to listen to them. Though I do look at their mouth usually. So maybe 8 I guess.


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10 Dec 2014, 5:21 am

10. It doesn't happen.



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10 Dec 2014, 5:23 am

10. It's complicated by the fact I can't see well, too.



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10 Dec 2014, 9:30 am

I used to have problems with it. Eventually I just kept looking at people's foreheads and later I started looking into their eyes and now I can do it. I guess a 2/10 or something. It's harder when around people I don't know though.



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10 Dec 2014, 12:22 pm

I don't know. This topic confuses me.
I always thought I had learned to have a lot of eye contact (I can remember a time when I was maybe nine, when I learned to remember to look at people when talking to them). A few weeks ago I learned more about AS and started wondering if I had it. But I still thought, ok, I have these symptoms and those as well, actually almost everything, but I don't look away when I'm talking to someone!

Then I started watching myself about one week ago. It's very difficult, because I need to concentrate so much when I talk to someone and at the same time think about where I look at. And also, I'm not sure if I behave other than I would have before, only because I'm thinking so much about it.
So, from the short time I've been watching myself, I would say: No, most of the time I don't have eye contact, only some glances. Normally I look at people's mouths or sometimes noses. And sometimes I turn away while the talking is still going on. 8O That surprised me.
I didn't tell my boyfriend about my "experiment", I only told him about that I think I have AS and asked if he thinks I appear strange to others. He said I would appear normal, so at least he doesn't notice when I often look at his mouth instead of his eyes. But I also think he's the one person with whom I have a lot of eye contact.

During the last days, I looked people in the eye more often and a little longer, and it didn't feel so bad. However, I wasn't sure about how long these eye contacts should be. But I think I'm able to get better at it.