Feeling proud of myself (didn't leave party mean guy)

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One of my friends in my aspie group had a party for people in the group. It was a *lot* of fun. They have a huge pond in the backyard, so there was catch and release fishing.

All in all I had a great time. except for the below.


I was away for a couple of weeks, and while I was gone a new person came to the group. He came to the party.

So I was fishing (The mom of my friend set the hook up for me, as i've never done it before) and having a good time. One of my friends was with me. Suddenly this guy we'll call him NG for New guy. He comes over and says very hostily "Can I have my fishing pole back now PLEASE?" The pelase didn't even sound like please it sounded like a bad word. and I had no clue it was his pole. I said okay and left to see my friends. (before I would have let this ruin my whole time there.) instead of letting ti ruin my time I thought, maybe I was imagining him being mean. Nope.

Later I decided to try fishing again. NG was out there. The mother of my friend showed me where to sit down. I tried to talk to this guy, and I guess I was a little loud. I asked him if he'd caught any. He didn't respond. I asked again and he said (Once again meanly) "YOU'RE SCARING THE FISH AWAY!"(he wasn't loud just mean) so I said "Okay I'll be quieter." I continue fishing, and a few seconds later he says "PLEASE! You're scaring the fish away! why don't you fish somewhere else! at least not near me!"

It really hurt my feelings. I walked inside, said "okay I'll just go then. He didn't even seem to notice or care he had hurt my feelings. I actually cried. i felt like saying "That was not nice! You really hurt my feelings." But I am not ready to do that yet. I sat with a friend, and told him how I was feeling, and he said that it was not nice of the guy, and we played a video game.

Then later I decided to talk to him. His prents were ust telling me about an interesting pet they have. So i said "I hear you have _insert pet name" and he ignored me. I tried again same thing.

anyway, I'm feeling really proud of myself. maybe two years ago, I would have let this whole thing bother me, and not had a good time. I probably would have left.

I feel good that I could overcome this. I am a lot better now than I used to be. I am very proud!

Awesome! I don't have AS and I would have been tempted to leave myself. Very exciting progress!

What a rude fellow. Good on you for not letting him ruin your time at the party.
Not sure what I would have done, but I would have thought of dunking his head under the water then say 'shh, you're scaring the fish'.

^^ Yaye, very well done ShadesOfMe! ^^ I believe I would have been very scared in this situation, and been very worried that I hadv completed a naughty act to upset the boy. ^^I do not interact with many humans that I do not know very often therefore would not have known how the boy was cursed. ^^ I am very happy that you are proud. *Blesses*

Good for you ShadesOfMe. Good that also you have the moral high-ground in this situation.

I probably would have accidentally on purpose knocked him in the pond and pretended I was sorry about my clumsyness.

Though, it may be a good idea for someone to clue him in that his behaviour is not good/acceptable, he may not realise that the behaviour was bad/rude?

You handled that situation well, better than most NT's even Congrats