Aspie Girls vs. NT Guys

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I've always preferred the company of guys over girls because they tend to just blow things off and aren't too keen on the little jabs that NT girls secretely offend each other with. NT girls that are younger are very competitive and dominating toward other girls their age. The guys are sort of oblivious to all of this underhandedness.

The fact is that NT guys prefer the company of NT guys.. They hang out with girls for sexual reasons mostly. There is always that undercurrent whether it is spoken aloud or not. Why would an NT want to hang out with a girl? I'm sure you have a great personality and all, but don't be naive. Unless he is in love with you and if he is an NT guy will say it. They are not complicated or complex individuals. They are only sneaky when they only want sex. If the guy was over 50 then I'd say he is more likely to be able to just be friends but even then I'd doubt it.

That's probably true but I find it offensive to think someone would drop a friendship because they decided you were not "doable". Why are they considered normal? Seriously.

Wow, aspie girls actually GETTING ALONG with guys? That's news to me. I NEVER got along with guys. In fact the majority of them flatout hated me and didn't hesitate to let me know. And it's not like I was mean or anything. The rest were quietly disinterested (flatout ignored me). I only ever got along with a small tolerant minority of girls. As a result I'm pretty much scarred for life and never had a relationship, but for different reasons than the rest of you girls.

Your what's known as a "b***h", and your probably gay since you seem to only want the attention of females.

I've read somewhere a theory whoo says that Asperger all have a very "masculine" brain. Just as most lesbians... I don't really like when people try to explain and anticipate physochological things with just physical things - but however that's interesting for me. Men are raised to be more logical, less empathic and less emotion-based. So it's understable that some Aspie girls feel more comfortable with them. I don't think it necesseraly means you're lesbian ! But, I am an Aspie girl, and I've always been attracted by women.

I don't really get this supposed logic/emotion dichotomy. I'm inclined to think it's a bit of an illusion, partly perpetuated by hearsay and fictional characters such as Spock. Where's the scientific basis for this stuff?

I understand that it's stressful to have to deal with jealous girlfriends. All I can suggest is that you give the impression to them that you are open and have nothing to hide. Don't set too many hard and fast rules for prospective boyfriends, either, because if merely founded on speculation they may be incorrect and work against your interests.

I have also always had more of a yen to talk to the men, than the women. Since high school.
At family dinners for instance, it was less interesting for me to hang out in the kitchen with the women than to go hang around the guys talking politics.
When I was at home with a baby I tried joining a 'mother's group' and found the NT women still completely inexplicable.
There was no way I could get into any of their conversation. Went 2x and stopped.

It seems that a fair number of AS people are less about sex, and more about interests (logic, whatever). This isn't true (so much) for NT's.
Besides, a stereotypical NT group of your own peer/gender is usually going to make any AS person feel more 'odd'.

On the other hand, an AS-female feels less odd hanging with NT males as her different-ness is simply morphed into "she's a chick" for them.
Same with AS-males being more comfortable around a group of NT females, they aren't judging him BY THEMSELVES.

It took me MANY years, but I finally decided the people closest to my age and gender are the ones that spot my "different-ness" the quickest. They know exactly what a woman X-years old should be acting like. So women my own age, the ones I wanted as friends, are the least likely people to accept me. Guys my own age, at work still to this day, treat me like I'm just one of the 'chicks'! It's funny though, because they still make comments as though I must behave like their wives do; "I know you, you're on the phone all the time you're at home!" ROFLMAO! Uh, right.... But I don't correct them. I just enjoy the fact that they 'don't know'.

I do not think the women your own age find you threatening. They see you as odd, and in primitive tribal fashion are pushing you out of the circle.
It's actually normal behavior. They would bond with another pretty same-age female of their own kind easily.

Oh, I used to think people found me "scary" when I was younger. At least that was my own explanation, because I was smart.
No, they found me odd. I get it now.
Knowing the truth is half the battle.