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I value...
Honesty, kindness, someone who's easy to be around, it absolutely doesn't matter what she looks like. 13%  13%  [ 7 ]
Honesty, looks, intelligence (with looks), not a gold digger (did I mention she has to be hot?) 15%  15%  [ 8 ]
Some level of attractivness, but I'm looking at personality from that point on. 72%  72%  [ 38 ]
We're talking about income right? 0%  0%  [ 0 ]
Total votes : 53

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14 Sep 2009, 8:09 pm

I can't really vote on the poll, as none of the possible responses apply to me.

I have been attracted to/dated a full range of males and females as far as looks are concerned. I've had it hot for everything from Johnny Depp to the fugly smart guy who sat next to me in high school Sociology. While there are certain physical features I'm attracted to, they aren't necessarily related to the most "traditionally" attractive features. Of course, I like some of the "traditional features" as well. (Johnny Depp, Liv Tyler). For some reason I also think Jack Black and "Weird Al" are kind of hot. However, I've never understood what everyone sees in Bard Pitt. He just looks like a regular dude to me.

For me, personality can either degrade or enhance a person's appearance. A personality I like will make a person seem more physically attractive, while a personality I don't like will make a person seem less physically attractive.



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14 Sep 2009, 8:48 pm

While having the same interests and personality are more important, I am attracted to curvy, voluptuous women.


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15 Sep 2009, 2:14 am

Gaya wrote:
For me, personality can either degrade or enhance a person's appearance.


Oh, I TOTALLY agree!



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15 Sep 2009, 3:39 am

A woman looking attractive to me is a necessary condition for me wanting to have a relationship with them. Many women have grown on me, but I hazard to say that most of the girls that stick in my memory are those who caught my eye in some way from the very first time I see them. A lot of girls do this, particularly those around my age. That said, this is not a sufficient condition: whether I like them as a person seals the deal, if I feel like I couldn't get too close without causing some kind of friction I tend to get put off. Some off-putting traits for me that don't have to do with looks include: not having any interests in common with me, showing signs of serious depression or otherwise mental instability, being very insecure, being narcissistic, being strongly religious, and being very conservative politically.



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15 Sep 2009, 3:48 am

Looks = interest.
Personality = decision.


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15 Sep 2009, 4:02 am

Silvervarg wrote:
Looks = interest.
Personality = decision.


This.


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15 Sep 2009, 4:04 am

that they're hot doesn't matter as much to me.
but i'm a sucker for a cute face and nice personality.

however i still prefer someone closer to my body type. i'm not really superficial all that much but excess weight is unattractive


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15 Sep 2009, 4:51 am

Anybody else remember the movie Defending Your Life? There was a line about how you need to find someone with just good-looking enough to attract you. If there's a huge excess, it'll just complicate things. So they should be attractive, but not to the point that it's distracting. I dunno if that's true or not, lol.

This may be more of a girl thing, but what I think of a person changes how they look to me. Once I realize that someone is a jerk, they start looking more and more like a jerk. I think it's mostly just an association thing, I associate their features with nastiness, so they look ugly to me. Or if I associate their features with positive traits, they look good to me. The appeal of their looks is greatly affected by their personality. (I think a lot of personal preferences on looks are based off of prior experience? Characteristics you're attracted to are those that remind you of people of whom you think positively.)



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15 Sep 2009, 6:12 am

Of COURSE looks matter. Anyone who says otherwise is an idiot.

You can't fall in love with someone you're not attracted to. That's a fact. What you personally find attractive depends from person to person. I know some (what I consider to be) incredibly ugly people who go out with other incredibly ugly people, but they find EACH OTHER attractive. Other people might think this means looks don't matter, but of course it does, because if those two didn't crush on each other they'd have nothing.

It's just that looks are subjective. Looks ALWAYS matter. You just need to find the person who likes how you personally look.



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15 Sep 2009, 10:27 am

hale_bopp wrote:
Really for me it's personality that dominates. I like fun, intelligent, loud confident guys who like to joke, and are very easy to talk to. If their look does it for me, then all the better.


I can do all those things :nerdy:

At least if I'm in a familiar situation... when I'm in the unfamiliar I tend to become very quiet...



As for me, I see looks as slightly important... I wouldn't want to date someone that is fatter than me, but then again, that's a fairly big ticket to fill as I'm not exactly skinny myself.

On the other hand, something I need in a woman is the nerdiness... a nerdy woman will be able to understand a lot of the stuff I say, and can be quite stimulating in general...

For instance, one time I got turned on because a girl said "epic fail"... sure that's not exactly the smartest type of remark in the world, but even in things like a woman in the nerd stereotype of writing equations on the board, I see attractiveness...



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15 Sep 2009, 5:48 pm

Looks matter, but there's more to it than that. Once I ended up dating a guy that I wasn't attracted to at first, but I found him more attractive as I got to know him and talked to him more. And I've found some guys veerry physically attractive but after talking to them and seeing how they behave, have lost all interest (and attraction).



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15 Sep 2009, 5:59 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:
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On the other hand, something I need in a woman is the nerdiness... a nerdy woman will be able to understand a lot of the stuff I say, and can be quite stimulating in general...

For instance, one time I got turned on because a girl said "epic fail"... sure that's not exactly the smartest type of remark in the world, but even in things like a woman in the nerd stereotype of writing equations on the board, I see attractiveness...


That's sweet. "Epic fail" pings your radar. I understand. It means she's a kindred spirit, a fellow nerd. :D



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16 Sep 2009, 9:07 am

hale_bopp wrote:
As I've grown older, I realised "looking hot" doesn't matter.. but looking attractive in the eye of the beholder does.
I am attracted to a guy who everyone says looks ugly atm.. I don't know him.. why do I like him? Because his look does it for ME.
That and he seems to have a goofy loud mouth personality which I am usually instantly attracted to.

Really for me it's personality that dominates. I like fun, intelligent, loud confident guys who like to joke, and are very easy to talk to. If their look does it for me, then all the better.

"hot" guys are nice to look at... but.. whats hot? Generic "hot" just hardout bores me.



But you don't know him, so how can you know his exact personality?



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16 Sep 2009, 9:16 am

I am not sure how correct this "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" , scientific studies don't really support this belief, beauty is more a matter of almost consensus in some society. 90% of people agree that this person X is beautiful , and 90% would agree that this person Y is ugly , so it seems that the beholder is the majority of people.

However, it seems that people lower their standards as they are growing old because they start to care more and more about other criteria and because of the lack of available people of their age....



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16 Sep 2009, 10:40 am

I think beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder. I have almost always fallen for a guy that I would not 'normally' be attracted to because of the person they were. And once I start to like their personality, I like their physical looks as well. I've fallen for more than one guy that would be classified as 'unattractive.' I'll post pictures if you don't believe me :lol:

I don't really pay that much attention to phyiscal looks at all, actually. I can have a conversation with a stranger and walk away and be completely unable to describe him at all because I just didn't notice. Very very rarely do I see a random stranger that I think is 'hot'. I actually have to know something about someone to be interested in them at all. I would never accept an invitation to 'go out' with a stranger, no matter how 'hot' he was.

That being said, it is certainly nice to have a little bit of physical attraction (non related to emotions) to your partner because when times are tough and fights come along and the emotional part is damaged, being attracted to eachother gives you an incentive to make up. :)