Did it seem only you were getting picked on?
Wow, a boy who would actually 'beat up' a girl?! Where? Even around here, actual "beating up" of girls by boys was frowned upon at school, even by some of the problem kids.
Maybe they thought you had battered Girlfriend syndrome...
But yeah, that was the only time in school I was ever beat on by a boy. I mean, he never like punched me in the face, but he'd leave bruises on my arms. I really didn't like him.
Did he ever say why he was beating you up? Did he claim you had wronged him in some way? Or did he just need a punching bag?
Ahhh. Well did he seem like he was 'trying'? Would he chase you and corner you, or would you just have to sit passively while he beat on you?
What do you mean by 'trying?' Do you mean trying to really hurt me? No, I don't believe he was trying to put me in a body cast or anything.
It was in class, so I couldn't really get away from him. I was 'confined' to my desk and of course he sat right besides me. Damn alphabetical order. I'd tell him to stop but he wouldn't listen. About halfway through the year I got so fed up that I smacked him back. It didn't stop him though.
Ahh, ok, that's what I was asking.
Geez. And the other kids were useless?
I'm new here and this is my story relative to the topic.
I never really started getting picked on until 4th grade. I suppose that's when my AS really started to show where people would notice. I'd have a group of some taller boys pick on me for no reason at all. It was cruel, unusual, and when I'd finally snap and do something, I'm the one in trouble! Teachers didn't do jack-sh*t, they knew it was happening but failed to act, this continued throughout gradeschool through high school. Once while traveling through the hallway, I was pushed into the wall and choked, I almost fainted, still nothing happened to this guy. I didn't finally find peace until I was in college.
Now I am 28, I am graduating May 2010, and I remember every single incident as if it happened to me yesterday. No repressed memories here; people were jerks to me for no reason, and I highly doubt they'd accept me now, and I wouldn't want them to.
Since nothing happened to these people, I had not justice, no balance, them in their happy NT families and lives, it was all fun to them.
I remember everything, and they conveniently don't. Lucky them. Not so much for me.
Of course the other kids were useless. They thought we liked each other. Ew.
Why is it that if a girl bullies you they don't assume that it's because they like you, but if a boy does you must have a crush on them? (and the reverse if you're a boy)
And I don't know if they don't remember anything, mfarmerkcmo. My mother was a bully in school. She used to slam people into lockers and all that old school stuff. She remembers it all (since she's told me about it) and she now feels kind of bad about it. But you can't assume that the bullies lead happy lives with their NT families. The reason my mother used to beat up other kids, she told me, was because she was physically, verbally and emotionally abused at home. There was no happy NT life and family, there was no fun. I'm not excusing what she did, because we all know bullying is bad, but I'm using it as an example that we can't automatically assume things about other people. Assumptions are dangerous things.
And people do grow up. My mother actually keeps in contact with one of the girls she used to bully and while they're not close friends they don't hate each other anymore.
Why is it that if a girl bullies you they don't assume that it's because they like you, but if a boy does you must have a crush on them? (and the reverse if you're a boy)
And I don't know if they don't remember anything, mfarmerkcmo. My mother was a bully in school. She used to slam people into lockers and all that old school stuff. She remembers it all (since she's told me about it) and she now feels kind of bad about it. But you can't assume that the bullies lead happy lives with their NT families. The reason my mother used to beat up other kids, she told me, was because she was physically, verbally and emotionally abused at home. There was no happy NT life and family, there was no fun. I'm not excusing what she did, because we all know bullying is bad, but I'm using it as an example that we can't automatically assume things about other people. Assumptions are dangerous things.
And people do grow up. My mother actually keeps in contact with one of the girls she used to bully and while they're not close friends they don't hate each other anymore.
Oh okay I had to re-read your post a little more closely. Thanks!
Im luckier than most, I've never been physically bullied. It's a side effect of being taller and somehow, more muscular than the bullies, it's something that I'm very thankful for. Although, the bullies in my class aren't really very good at what they do. There're some dangerous ones in other class's. They don't notice me though.
Verbal bullying though, I get a reasonable amount of that. Only every now and then and it's not serious but there's this one guy who's noticed I fail in social situations and tries to take advantage of it by blaming me for things that he has done. The teachers know that it was him though. I also get asked sometimes "Were you born in England?" (or New Zealand).
I even had some guy ask once "do you have Autism?", he was completely serious and not making it into a joke like he usually does.
Sorry if I'm rambling, it's nice to talk about bad experiences in a way that I don't have to speak.