Did it seem only you were getting picked on?

Post Reply New Topic

Of course the other kids were useless. They thought we liked each other. Ew.
Why is it that if a girl bullies you they don't assume that it's because they like you, but if a boy does you must have a crush on them? (and the reverse if you're a boy)

And I don't know if they don't remember anything, mfarmerkcmo. My mother was a bully in school. She used to slam people into lockers and all that old school stuff. She remembers it all (since she's told me about it) and she now feels kind of bad about it. But you can't assume that the bullies lead happy lives with their NT families. The reason my mother used to beat up other kids, she told me, was because she was physically, verbally and emotionally abused at home. There was no happy NT life and family, there was no fun. I'm not excusing what she did, because we all know bullying is bad, but I'm using it as an example that we can't automatically assume things about other people. Assumptions are dangerous things.

And people do grow up. My mother actually keeps in contact with one of the girls she used to bully and while they're not close friends they don't hate each other anymore.

I dunno really. I guess it was the trickle down effect and my mom was the youngest so everyone beat on her and she took it out on the kids at school because she couldn't take it out on anyone at home. Both my grandparents smoked and drank, alcoholism runs in their family, so that might have had something to do with it. Plus my grandfather was also abused as a child, and my uncle is abusive to his kids (both of whom are in a sorry state, though the one has been accepted back into the family now that she's had three sons), so it may just be a "way they were raised" thing.

My brother and I are really lucky that our mother married our father. He's a saint.
We're also lucky we didn't grow up anywhere near our mother's family. Whenever we visited we'd get yelled at (they didn't dare smack us with Dad around), but at least we didn't have to live with it.

I dunno really. I guess it was the trickle down effect and my mom was the youngest so everyone beat on her and she took it out on the kids at school because she couldn't take it out on anyone at home. Both my grandparents smoked and drank, alcoholism runs in their family, so that might have had something to do with it. Plus my grandfather was also abused as a child, and my uncle is abusive to his kids (both of whom are in a sorry state, though the one has been accepted back into the family now that she's had three sons), so it may just be a "way they were raised" thing.

My brother and I are really lucky that our mother married our father. He's a saint.
We're also lucky we didn't grow up anywhere near our mother's family. Whenever we visited we'd get yelled at (they didn't dare smack us with Dad around), but at least we didn't have to live with it.