sartresue wrote:
Social Insight topic
You might have to stand outside yourself and watch as you interact with others, though i have no clue as to how you would do this. NTs seem to do this via instinct.
My children never miss an opportunity to chastise my soical blunders, and to advise me on the correct way, but it does not sink in.
It is interesting you can see the mistakes of others. All I see is perhaps the oddball behaviour of others, but it is not a social thing.
I wonder if it is because I ask so many questions about social interactions all of the time. My boyfriend says he feels like he is in class constantly when around me on some days, lol, because I keep asking and asking. I absorb things he tells me after I question them enough... but it gets absorbed as in "this is what OTHER people do", vs. "what I need to do". So the dividing line remains... "this is why other people do this" "this is what they are supposed to do", etc., but it is very hard to actually apply any of it to myself.
Kind of like there is some blockage... no matter what he explains to me about things, it's like this ongoing thing in my mind of "but I don't do that".
I guess the only way to explain it well is with an example... say everyone on my street has a blue car, but I ride around on a red bike. Therefore, everything said about people who have blue cars does not apply to me.... same kind of thing with behavior and social interactions in my mind. It's very much a separate thing. "This is what I do" vs. "This is what they do".
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