Does AS get worse over time?

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I always thought it was the opposite, but now I don't understood it anymore because for me AS seemed to get worse, then better, then worse.

Thanks for bringing this to my attention! Looking through this list he has 6-10 of these. I just sent him to eat. Does anyone know of an Ensure-like supplement without gluten or casein? THANKS!

It's been a rollercoaster for us, too, only for him it seems to be generally escalating, but from minute to minute, it's up, it's down. It's crazy.

With my son, he is very mild. His symptoms showed a lot more in the 3rd grade than it is now. I have read that hormones (during puberty anyway) knock it out of whack for some, making it seem worse, but others with AS seem to have less symptoms. My son is starting puberty and has dropped a lot of symptoms or rather, they have become a lot less noticeable. Less tantrums and more saying o'well, instead of getting mad. More likely to go outside to play with neighbor kids and less likely to spend most his time on the computer refusing to see anyone. More willing to go somewhere w/o anxiety when it is unplanned, less trantrum because we aren't going straight home so he can get on the computer. I think it is possible for it to get worse, especially if someone is under stress because they are not coping well while in a stressed state. Imo...everyone is different.

I get angry sometimes and even inside my Autistic Matrix I can definitely feel the stress and the anxiety.

I get even more anxiety AFTER I blow up!

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This article should be required reading. I have bookmarked it for reference.

Thank you. What you said makes sense.

Thank you -- I'm understanding better now about the role stress in adulthood plays.

Thanks. What you said is interesting. Something more for me to think about.

Thank you. I agree there's stress involved here, and it was interesting to read your take on how Aspies develop a facade in new relationships (though don't most people?!). I think both of these factors probably feed into what I am witnessing, but I am perplexed by his ability to instantaneously turn on a dime from a crazed husband to the seetest thing, like nothing happened a second ago. It's baffling.

I behave in exactly that way, it amazes me how I do it. I remember reading how a lot of aspies create mountains out of molehills most of the time but then can be exceptional in crisis situations. That is me to a T and I think sometimes when I go too far then my crisis mode kicks in and I am able to get out of it instantaneously.

I know it is has historically been hard on my wife but I do think that nowadays it is more me that I am harming than my wife when I'm in one of my moods.

I too am getting worse in my aspergers tendencies and I do think I put that down to not having the energy I used to have that was devoted to appearing NT.

I know nothing there really helps you but I must say I was worried for a second upon reading your post that maybe my wife had joined the forums until I got the bit about the diet etc.

Does being smart get worst over time?

Thanks for the perspective. I hadn't heard of this before.

One thing we've found that helps us a lot is our recognition that I need to withdraw when things aren't working. We've set up a room in the house that is considered 'my room'. I've got a mattress, a desk and computer there. When I start to become too much to handle my wife effectively tells me to go up to my room. Similarly I am becoming better at recognizing my need to withdraw before things get out of hand and head to my room myself. It has become my chill out space and simply being there has a calming effect in itself.

This sort of thing needs to be discussed and worked out when your husband is in a good mood.

A key in this hole thing is your husband understanding that his behavior is detrimental and it is in the best interests of your relationship to lessen the impact.

That's the part he doesn't get. He thinks it's me. our child, or that it's "natural" to do whatever it is he is doing at the moment given whatever the circumstances are. He is unbelievably forgiving of himself.

I did the same thing when I was with my starter wife. It is hard to explain, but here's my attempt of self-analysis: First, the anger or the "crazy" episode is only a skin-deep. And, I'm almost certain it's not even directed at you, but rather at his own inability to handle the situation. I could even venture to speculate that Aspies cannot really experience a deep anger that lasts longer than a typical attention span of a few minutes. Just like many of the other emotions, expression of anger sometimes is just a result of a logical analysis that anger should be the appropriate normal response in the actual context. Secondly, based on my experience, 25 seconds into the meltdown, some logical reasoning kicks in and concludes that the whole thing is stupid, there is really nothing to be angry about, I probably look retaded if I continue and I should go back into my normal sweet "pretend NT". There is also guilt that you were offended for no reason and a desire to rectify the situation as quickly as possible.

What's missing is the understanding that your feelings and expectations are very different. Not only you can't stop being angry and hurt in a flash because you're truly upset at the full NT strength, you can't really imagine how it's possible for him to do so. My ex-wife would just say that I was a drama a-hole who didn't care about her feelings. I believe the opposite is true. When I decided to end one of the outbursts by storming out of the room and coming back in a few hours with and angry expression, she was no longer perplexed. I was no longer acting like an a-hole, I was a real a-hole.

Talk to him, you probably need to understand one another better.