"How creepy? Like Asperger's Creepy?"

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Thing is, people don't tell YOU when they think your creepy. They tell everyone else.

I wonder if she knows about you, and thought she was somehow being polite.

I do too...my sister always tells me that, when we go out to eat, I look at the waitress a little too long when I think she's pretty. I'm not going to wait outside and jump her after she gets off work (I don't have the nerve to say more than thank you); I just like what I see.

Stares in your eyes topic

This is why I do not do the ye contact thing too much. I have to be conscious of the 5 second rule. (I use this in interviews). Otherwise, yes, I stare O_O, like the eyes in a Roman statue. .

But looks do not really do any harm, as far as I know.

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"Aspergers creepy" lol that's a new one
I do stare at people if I ifnd their looks interesting or they're talking about something I'm interested in, or sometimes I just stare anyway. I try not to because they always look back at me like "what are you looking at?" but then I end up staring again, it's a bad habit I can't seem to kick. I hope I don't seem too asperger's creepy

I was trying to think of a good way of saying that, but you did first.
Two large parts of creepy are "hard to understand" and "doesn't seem like they'd take a hint." Both apply to most aspies. Especially in a guy, the "doesn't seem like they'd take a hint" is a big one.. like that they'd hit on you and never get when was completely unwelcome. That doesn't mean that it's something they'd purposely do, but if an NT girl is "sizing up" a guy, whether or not he'd understand her signals is a big issue.

It's true.

I'd probably casually say "I have aspergers" and then just let them deal with that. I think it's kinda like someone making any kind of slur to be honest. My days of "taking it from the normal people" are behind me I'm afraid. I seriously doubt it would cost someone their job to speak up calmly and non confrontationally in a situation like that. It would make the person who said the original comment look silly.

Oh, is that why some people think I'm creepy? I thought that was because of my general goth-yness.

(Like this time a lady and what I assumed would be her kid were walking past me...
And all the sudden...
She gives me this -stare-.... and then she scrunches her kid up against her side and hustles away. I laughed; it was so.... silly.).

Though I haven't gotten any of that lately... then again, I don't really leave the house much. Heh.

Meh same here plus most of my high school years I had to remind new teachers/nurses that I'm normally this pale and not sick.

I find nts creepy to be honest

Lol! Me, too! (fear the creepy "vampire" goth girl in all her pale glory.).

Meh. I find most people to be.... well, not creepy. "Unnerving", I suppose. Regardless of what sort of brain they hold.

I think it all boils down to evolution... Look at societies of higher primates (yes, they have culture too). Things like posture, eye contact, showing teeth are all important in chimp tribes. It seems reasonable that human ancestors would have similar modes of communication. I can't imagine the difficulties of an apsie Australopithecus!

So yeah, it's not surprising that even reasonable, intelligent, AS educated people still have a hard time relating.

If you asked people if it's reasonable to assume that beautiful people are good and ugly people are bad, most would say no. BUT all you have to do is look at the culture to see that appearance biases that convey that very message exist everywhere. It seems to me, people are just hardwired and conditioned to behave in specific ways that aren't necessarily determined by rationality.

Define normal, please.

Personally, I wouldn't be quick to label someone who comes up with the term 'Asperger's creepy' normal.

I'm wondering if all the Asperger's awareness is a good thing or not. The term seems to have entered the public lexicon. A couple weeks ago I was on a Dallas Cowboys (football team) chat board during a game, last place you'd expect to hear a mention of Asperger's, right?

Well, wrong. One of the Dallas players, Flozell Adams, who is noted for getting many penalties got a penalty. And the conversation went "Flozell Adams is so stupid." And then one of them said "Flozell Adams has Asperger's." And then there were many "lol, he does have asspergers" comments. They were pretty clearly using the term 'Asperger's' as an insult. The topic of conversation became "Flozell Adams' assburgers" for the next 5 minutes.

I think we need more education rather than awareness. All awareness does is get ignorant asshats to misunderstand it and then ridicule it.

Normal to me is an oppressive word or a setting on a machine/program

Dude NT=ignorant asshat and all the education in the world will never change that... The sooner you grasp that concept, the better off you'll be.

Normal = socially normal

Socially normal people have an ingrained/innate "detection system" that interprets how someone appears by their nonverbal and verbal body language without conscious thought. Enter an ASD, and you have someone who "spoofs" this "detection system" by providing unreadable data.

You take one person with an ASD and have a dozen people try to interpret how said person with an ASD is feeling, and how does the person look to them, and you'll get various answers, like creepy, sad, serious, scary, etcetera and etcetera.

They can't help doing this like how "we" can't help how we are [for the most part].

Without conscious thought? Really?