The golden arches do not lead to the golden gate. For one to conquer her true arch de triumph, a structured plan with specific set of goals must be rigidly adhered too. The rigid adherence to said plans must remain at hand over all other thought, or your own rigidity will end up in your own hand. Truth is, any man seeking to dine at the aches, will have to pay in one way or another, whether it be scruples or truffles. A mans pride and his feelings are generally bigger than he wishes, and must be sacrificed in order to please the goddess to be. She must be allowed to play with these for a while, prior to other playful things.
These creatures are known to attack at random, only to sit back and watch the reaction show, sounds cruel, but they are on questioning their own doubts at this point, or they even bother. At this point in the ritual, her demands are simple, your feelings are not as important as hers. Once she feels more comfortable with your interest in her thoughts and views, she will offer more views.
In the case this first attempt appears to have required a humble retreat, let it be just that, humble your heart out. The reaction show is still being marked down on the proverbial scoreboard. Like it or not, there is no way to erase the score, it takes twice as many positives to outweigh any negatives. So basically one has double down all bets, or he will double up, and all bets are off. To put it bluntly, you have to win the scoreboard before you score.