ToadOfSteel wrote:
Well thanks for the vote of confidence... it's just that I had always thought that if a woman tried to love someone and couldn't feel it, that meant she probably wouldn't ever feel love for said someone...
Of course, you're the one with the experience, so I guess I should defer to your judgement on this one...
I think what you have here is that most people date first and fall in love
while dating whereas you fell in love first and are now dating the person you had already fallen in love with. It sounds like what she is attempting to do is catch up to where you already are. But what she's doing is the norm. It is absolutely the norm to
not love somebody you have only been dating for a couple weeks but merely to be attracted and intrigued. Attraction and intrigue grows into love with time. Although the friend relationship is 3 years long, the dating relationship is only a few weeks long. I was dating my husband for months before I fell in love with him. Perhaps you are thinking "but she's known me for 3 years, isn't that long enough to know whether or not she loves me?". Except that 1)For most of those 3 years she was too young to even think of you that way and 2)there has been a paradigm shift- the "counter" starts counting from when the paradigm shift occured, not when she first met you.