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17 Dec 2009, 4:48 pm
rmgh wrote:
Has anyone been in love with someone who's in love with you too, but it never works because of your extremely low self esteem and self loath? Or anything similar?
Yeah, I've flubbed a few would-be relationships because of that.
Sometimes it's not such a bad thing -- it might not be low self esteem so much as your brain telling you that it just isn't going to work. I've had very popular girls in high school (or after) be interested in me, but I knew that I could never fit in with their friends and lifestyle, and that at the end of the day it would be a gross mismatch.
Women sometimes get caught up in the romance of an idea, but once the reality hits that it isn't going to work, you're the one left in the lurch, worse for the wear.
However, that being said, if you are a very physically-oriented, and just want to "score" with someone who you normally wouldn't have a chance with, go with it, and if you take some lumps, well, that's the cost of doing business.
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18 Dec 2009, 1:44 pm
billsmithglendale wrote:
I've had very popular girls in high school (or after) be interested in me, but I knew that I could never fit in with their friends and lifestyle, and that at the end of the day it would be a gross mismatch.
Women sometimes get caught up in the romance of an idea, but once the reality hits that it isn't going to work, you're the one left in the lurch, worse for the wear.
Women sometimes get caught up in the romance of an idea, but once the reality hits that it isn't going to work, you're the one left in the lurch, worse for the wear.
Sounds familiar. That's very interesting. I think I might make sure and stay out of it after that advice, thanks.
billsmithglendale wrote:
However, that being said, if you are a very physically-oriented, and just want to "score" with someone who you normally wouldn't have a chance with, go with it, and if you take some lumps, well, that's the cost of doing business.
Hahaha! I feel that for me, that is even less likely to work than the former!
digitalb0y wrote:
yea been there done that! Just recently too. I met this awesome girl late this summer and we hit it off right away which doesn't happen with me that often due to my shyness. She is just so amazing, Cute, great morals, she even had many apspie quarks just like me so that was quite comforting. When we really got talking we found out we went though alot of the same stuff in the past. She even started to heavily indulge in one of my biggest obsessions Mountain biking, even recently bought a really high-end bike just like mine Although we both have low self-esteems, at the moments when we try to be more than friends everytime like clockworkm she or I screwed it up (IMHO, me mostly all the time) and then it gets weird and we both get pissed off!!, after atleast three tries we decided (or should I say she, but I cowardly accepted) to be the dreaded "friends". IMHO I would go through the worst part of the screw ups 100 more times if I had a chance of getting it RIGHT with her! Although just about anybody else I would not give that chance. Although she's that special. Thats my 2¢
That's a nice story. I hope it goes well for you.
digitalb0y wrote:
Although we both have low self-esteems, at the moments when we try to be more than friends everytime like clockworkm she or I screwed it up (IMHO, me mostly all the time) and then it gets weird and we both get pissed off!!, after atleast three tries we decided (or should I say she, but I cowardly accepted) to be the dreaded "friends".
I know what that's like, for sure! Me and this girl have been trying to work something out for years now!
She gets awkward and nervous when I'm after her and when she's after me, I get paranoid and angry. So we go through periods of not talking and then start again. We both have mental issues. But I don't think we're similar like you mentioned you are with that girl, so I guess I should not try anymore.
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18 Dec 2009, 6:47 pm
This is EXACTLY what ive been feeling lately i wanted to break up with my GF because i thought she deserved better than me and its really been getting me down to the point of wanting to isolate myself from all my freinds and GF just so they dont have to suffer me.
But know what im not that bad but i have to keep telling myself that or else im gonna be a very lonely person
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26 Dec 2009, 11:23 am
digitalb0y wrote:
Although we both have low self-esteems, at the moments when we try to be more than friends everytime like clockworkm she or I screwed it up (IMHO, me mostly all the time) and then it gets weird and we both get pissed off!!, after atleast three tries we decided (or should I say she, but I cowardly accepted) to be the dreaded ."friends".
rmgh wrote:
I know what that's like, for sure! Me and this girl have been trying to work something out for years now! She gets awkward and nervous when I'm after her and when she's after me, I get paranoid and angry. So we go through periods of not talking and then start again. We both have mental issues. But I don't think we're similar like you mentioned you are with that girl, so I guess I should not try anymore.
She gets awkward and nervous when I'm after her and when she's after me, I get paranoid and angry. So we go through periods of not talking and then start again. We both have mental issues. But I don't think we're similar like you mentioned you are with that girl, so I guess I should not try anymore.rmgh Don't give up!
26 Dec 2009, 7:23 pm
digitalb0y wrote:
digitalb0y wrote:
Although we both have low self-esteems, at the moments when we try to be more than friends everytime like clockworkm she or I screwed it up (IMHO, me mostly all the time) and then it gets weird and we both get pissed off!!, after atleast three tries we decided (or should I say she, but I cowardly accepted) to be the dreaded ."friends".
rmgh wrote:
I know what that's like, for sure! Me and this girl have been trying to work something out for years now! She gets awkward and nervous when I'm after her and when she's after me, I get paranoid and angry. So we go through periods of not talking and then start again. We both have mental issues. But I don't think we're similar like you mentioned you are with that girl, so I guess I should not try anymore.
She gets awkward and nervous when I'm after her and when she's after me, I get paranoid and angry. So we go through periods of not talking and then start again. We both have mental issues. But I don't think we're similar like you mentioned you are with that girl, so I guess I should not try anymore.rmgh Don't give up!
Lol thank you. I will keep going.
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