How you met your significant other

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Shadow-Fox
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30 Jan 2010, 7:23 pm

I'm now in love and am loved. It's happened only recently. I wasn't expecting it that's for sure! I met her right here on Wrong Planet! We are both Aspies in love! lol.
It's been a whirlwind romance so i'm still rather stunned by it all. I guess by being Aspies that we understand and accept each other greatly. Plus our interests are hugely alike!
Me Za Happy Man!! ! :D :P :D


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30 Jan 2010, 8:22 pm

^^ aawwee :) I hope it works out!

I met my husband through my sister, who was in a church group with him. She kept telling both of us how much we would like each other, at least as friends if not more. And the first time I met him I did like him. A lot. But nothing at all happened. Zip, nada. For two years ... because the guy just wasn't in the right space in his mind and in his life. But once he emerged and decided to consider dating again, he asked my sister if she thought I might be willing to go out with him. She told him to call me, we went out, first date was awkward, but somehow I still knew not to just give up. It's funny how it goes: with the wrong person you take everything as a sign you aren't meant to be. With the right person you just feel ... calm. And happy. And all that little stuff ... means nothing. I never felt nervous about if he would call me; I never felt angst about how things were going. I was just happy to let what was going to be, be.


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31 Jan 2010, 3:47 pm

All I can say is everyone of you are lucky, enough said. I prefer to find an NT, but not on the web though. These are my opinions.



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31 Jan 2010, 4:08 pm

FreeSpirit2000 wrote:
All I can say is everyone of you are lucky, enough said. I prefer to find an NT, but not on the web though. These are my opinions.


I beg to differ! :) I like to think that hard work, not luck, led to me finding my S.O. I had to push myself outside my comfort zone, plus work with a skewed sleep schedule, to meet him. After 2 years of attending meet-ups, and and also going to a monthly Adult Aspie support group, I found him. If I would have stayed indoors, with my special interests, my cat, and my computer, I would still be complaining about my single status. 8)


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31 Jan 2010, 4:09 pm

dont' have one



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31 Jan 2010, 4:20 pm

alex wrote:
dont' have one


Same here.


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31 Jan 2010, 4:48 pm

hartzofspace wrote:
FreeSpirit2000 wrote:
All I can say is everyone of you are lucky, enough said. I prefer to find an NT, but not on the web though. These are my opinions.


I beg to differ! :) I like to think that hard work, not luck, led to me finding my S.O. I had to push myself outside my comfort zone, plus work with a skewed sleep schedule, to meet him. After 2 years of attending meet-ups, and and also going to a monthly Adult Aspie support group, I found him. If I would have stayed indoors, with my special interests, my cat, and my computer, I would still be complaining about my single status. 8)


There definitely is an element of "work." Imagine if I'd gotten bitter about my future dh not contacting me for those 2 years? I didn't; by that time I'd lived enough life to learn that bitterness gets you nowhere. It took a lot of work to learn to roll with things, and to be willing to take risks when those risks got really scary.


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01 Feb 2010, 7:21 pm

My wife and I met playing online strategy games. We knew each other for a year and a half before we had the chance to meet, at Thanksgiving, with about two dozen of her extended relatives. And most of them are born-again Christians, and strident Republicans. I'm still amazed I walked away from that dinner alive.



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01 Feb 2010, 8:00 pm

DW_a_mom wrote:
There definitely is an element of "work."

I agree. It wasn't only luck in my case. There was the working extra for money to fly to see her and back, and then moving 1500 miles and filling out the forms to get permission to live in another country permanently. But it was worth it. I guess I had to push myself out of my "comfort zone" as well, or none of this would ever have happened.