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Spazzergasm
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21 Feb 2010, 6:16 pm

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Someone i met at an aspie support group has invited me to his birthday party this weekend but i dont know if i want to go. I have never been to a party like this. I don't like socialising and i dont drink alcohol. :?


If you don't go, he might think you don't like him. Or you could tell him they unsettle you. Or you could just go for him.



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21 Feb 2010, 7:03 pm

Drinking ale is good. Unfortunately, I do too much of it.

You must do whatever makes you feel happy in this life, MJackson. In time you'll learn this. If you want a pint, go and have one. If you don't, don't.



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21 Feb 2010, 8:58 pm

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It annoys the HELL out of me when people make a big deal out of drinking because they think it makes them look cool. I remember, the second week of school, seeing one of my high school friends' albums on Facebook titled "We pregame harder than you party" except with stupid decoration. This annoyed me for several reasons.

I looked at the album. It is a group of six people who went to my high school drinking in one of the group's apartment (no new people whatsoever) and taking pictures of themselves. All night. Meanwhile, the Aspie over here was partying with a LOT of new people, talking, dancing, and even more. I blacked out, found a rose from somewhere (I still have no idea whatsoever where that came from), wandered a couple blocks to another party where I gave it to a VERY cute girl (I had help finding her). I didn't put a word of it on Facebook (like making my status "had a wild night" or "is hung over").

It cracks me up and pisses me off at the same time that they were being out-partied by an Aspie and still thought they were super cool.


I enjoy these things too, and I never got the reason for bragging either. If you enjoy doing something, then do it. If you wanna put pics up of you having fun, go ahead and do that too. But to put up pics for the sake of saying 'I was here, look how cool I look!' or feeling the need to brag to others about how drunk you were... nah.


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22 Feb 2010, 11:53 am

Tequila wrote:
Drinking ale is good. Unfortunately, I do too much of it.

You must do whatever makes you feel happy in this life, MJackson. In time you'll learn this. If you want a pint, go and have one. If you don't, don't.


What if he has too many pints and becomes dead prematurely, or gets an enlargened prostate to such an extent as to get erectile dysfunction?
Or what if what makes him feel happy causes others pain?



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24 Feb 2010, 6:04 am

I enjoy going to clubs and I think I'd like bars even more, since I imagine there would be less sh*tty music and no music/good music.

I am not all that inhibited somehow... when I go to a club and there are a few girls dancing, I'm usually the first guy out there with them. Of course, according to most of the tests I take, I'm a solid NT, so I don't know if I really belong here, but I feel like I do because of my prior semi-diagnosis and tendency to talk about myself and be self-absorbed. :-P



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24 Feb 2010, 7:00 am

Tequila wrote:

You must do whatever makes you feel happy in this life, MJackson. In time you'll learn this. If you want a pint, go and have one. If you don't, don't.


I agree. I suggest you do whatever feels comfortable for you and whatever makes life the most enjoyable for you. For me, it's going out for drinks and to clubs...but for someone else, it might not be and that's totally fine. I know so many people who don't drink and aren't into these kinds of things, but does that mean I have less respect for them? No. Do these friends have rewarding lives and have other friends that respect their decisions? Yes! Just do what feels right.


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25 Feb 2010, 1:10 am

Spazzergasm wrote:
Tequila wrote:
Drinking ale is good. Unfortunately, I do too much of it.

You must do whatever makes you feel happy in this life, MJackson. In time you'll learn this. If you want a pint, go and have one. If you don't, don't.


What if he has too many pints and becomes dead prematurely, or gets an enlargened prostate to such an extent as to get erectile dysfunction?
Or what if what makes him feel happy causes others pain?


That would require a lot of pints, and if he wanted to drink them, that's his choice. As for hurting others, I say do what makes you happy, but not at the expense of others.


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25 Feb 2010, 1:32 pm

whatamarshmallow wrote:
As for hurting others, I say do what makes you happy, but not at the expense of others.


Good.