Sorce wrote:
This used to be a problem for me until I had an epiphany. Why should I consider this to be a problem when I'm simply being honest? If people want to be lied to, that sounds more like their problem than it is mine. Holding in things made me miserable, and being honest with others and myself has helped me form better relationships. I guess what could add confusion is trying to separate having no tact and just being mean. Being mean occurs if you're intentionally being insulting.
But I just say things that are very witty (to others, mean to some) without hardly noticing it. Like in math class, I was writing a problem on the board, and some girl said, "I can't read your writing. It's too small." (She said it in a very snobby voice, too.) And I countered, without even thinking, with, "Go get a magnifying glass, then." It's not a big deal if it's stuff like that, it's just when you say something that could be taken out of context or something that you shouldn't have said at that moment (being facetious). I have math two periods from now (I'm in the school library instead of at lunch) and now she's going to be all smart-alecky...hmm...is that a word? to me and I know I'm going to have to back it up with more smart-alecky things. And then that's going to explode into this huge saga of smart-aleckness that I never really bargained for, all because I refuse to apologise based on the fact that, whether I like to admit it or not, I was being totally honest, and I'm going to take that to the death, if need be. I don't know. Maybe I'm just an a******. That could be possible.
The problem is that what you're doing is retaliating. She says something smart to you and you say something back. It only ends when one of you says something really horrible. Why is it that you feel that you have to respond to her? If you want it to end just ignore her, or ask her why she's such a smart aleck to you.