24 Jan 2010, 2:53 am
I have had quite a few of these fixations over the years...my first one was at six...and they haven't stopped since then. They go beyond the scope of a typical crush on that this person is not only on your mind constantly, but you want to know anything and everything about said person...studying them in depth in an embarassingly stalkerish way. Although I'm not obsessed with them to the degree when I was a kid/teen, I have recently acknowledged that I still have a problem with this.
Can anyone relate to this? Share your experiences!
Nice Frank Zappa Sig. ; )
Thanks! He's one of my biggest inspirations
24 Jan 2010, 2:55 am
I have had quite a few of these fixations over the years...my first one was at six...and they haven't stopped since then. They go beyond the scope of a typical crush on that this person is not only on your mind constantly, but you want to know anything and everything about said person...studying them in depth in an embarassingly stalkerish way. Although I'm not obsessed with them to the degree when I was a kid/teen, I have recently acknowledged that I still have a problem with this.
Can anyone relate to this? Share your experiences!
Nice Frank Zappa Sig. ; )
Thanks! He's one of my biggest inspirations
Mine as well. You listen to any Captain Beefheart?
24 Jan 2010, 3:13 am
This is exactly the way my obsessions tend to pan out: you've described it perfectly. It's a very heavy attraction to the person's character, demeanor and style, so much that you can't help but pick up on it and imitate it.
If they were a celebrity, you'd be their biggest fan.
This rocker guy I liked in high school (and who I still like today to much a lesser extent) had the biggest influence on me. Whereas before I listened to r&b/rap music, suddenly I was into metal and rock. I traded in my pink tracksuits for black t-shirts and torn jeans. I downloaded all his music and even wrote down quotes he said that I found interesting, as he had a sarcastic, biting personality that I liked.
I also got an obsession with his former girlfriend (that ended, of course), so I started dressing like her, wearing my makeup like her, etc. I never even conciously realized what I was doing until this girl both of us knew pointed it out.
24 Jan 2010, 7:15 am
I totally relate to this topic. I've wasted at least 10 years of my life being obsessed with different individuals, in a pretty self-destructive way. It starts with fascination, and ends with total frustration 
I'm learning not to get into it any more.
24 Jan 2010, 8:07 am
I get problems like this all the time... Currently I have obsessions with two people, not in a sexual way, but there is something about them that are awesome but I can't seem to figure it out...... They treat me nicely and know how I would feel and they cheer me up very well no matter what mood I would be in 
24 Jan 2010, 9:53 am
I wish I knew how to fix this behavior. 
I questioned WHY I do it and IMO it's the "niceness effect" someone treating you nicely strip emotion to basics who would you want to be around more mom (yelling at you) OR teacher (nice to you) TEACHER!! ! LOL! I wonder why WE as Aspies do this?! When reading about social issues on help4aspergers.com it mentions lets say a girl calling a guy constantly since they don't understand gender rules. IMO this makes since but not just for girls towards guys but towards people nice to me is my issue.
24 Jan 2010, 12:27 pm
Thanks! He's one of my biggest inspirations
Mine as well. You listen to any Captain Beefheart?
Hey, I'm a Zappa fan as well. Got a whole bunch of his (and The Mothers') records in my vinyl collection... Got a bit of Beefheart too.
Sorry...offtopic. *slaps self*
24 Jan 2010, 2:50 pm
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24 Jan 2010, 6:42 pm
I'm obsessed with Magnus Scheving to the degree you describe- if I actually knew him I'd get arrested for stalking him!
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24 Jan 2010, 6:43 pm
26 Jan 2010, 5:38 pm
I'm very into music and in the past often had, well, a strong attraction to certain musicians. People whose music I knew through recordings, and who I saw in videos and photos. No one I knew.
Then, several years ago, I took an interest a musician who happened to be in a local band. And he noticed me and was friendly to me. Still is. His interest definitely fed into what was an obsessive interest, and had a lot of unhealthy qualities. I got over the unhealthy stuff though. Which wasn't easy. (Nothing stalkerish or anything. More like, wanting things that weren't possible. Then wanting things that weren't possible from him.)
Now, I'm still a big fan, still love his music, love to listen to his bands (past and present) and see him play live with his band. And he's still a friend of a sort. And, yeah, it probably could be said to be along the lines of a special interest.
He's a lot like me in some ways, and I think that's part of what draws me to him. Perhaps that's why he likes me.
26 Jan 2010, 6:32 pm
Thanks! He's one of my biggest inspirations
Mine as well. You listen to any Captain Beefheart?
Hey, I'm a Zappa fan as well. Got a whole bunch of his (and The Mothers') records in my vinyl collection... Got a bit of Beefheart too.
Sorry...offtopic. *slaps self*
I love them too. The loss of Frank Zappa to cancer was a huge loss to music. I also like Captain Beefheart. "Tropical Hotdog Night" is filthy in a good way. Yes. It's off topic. But sort of on-topic too since being obsessed with musicians is very common.
26 Jan 2010, 6:34 pm
Thanks! He's one of my biggest inspirations
Mine as well. You listen to any Captain Beefheart?
Hey, I'm a Zappa fan as well. Got a whole bunch of his (and The Mothers') records in my vinyl collection... Got a bit of Beefheart too.
Sorry...offtopic. *slaps self*
Beefheart is pretty awesome! And sometimes people have to switch topics to keep the conversation flowing...we are kind of talking about musicians after all, so it's very acceptable to branch things out.
26 Jan 2010, 6:41 pm
Then, several years ago, I took an interest a musician who happened to be in a local band. And he noticed me and was friendly to me. Still is.
His interest definitely fed into what was an obsessive interest, and had a lot of unhealthy qualities. I got over the unhealthy stuff though. Which wasn't easy. (Nothing stalkerish or anything. More like, wanting things that weren't possible. Then wanting things that weren't possible from him.)Now, I'm still a big fan, still love his music, love to listen to his bands (past and present) and see him play live with his band. And he's still a friend of a sort. And, yeah, it probably could be said to be along the lines of a special interest.
He's a lot like me in some ways, and I think that's part of what draws me to him. Perhaps that's why he likes me.
Oh my. I know exactly what you're talking about...as you have described one of my own obsessions...word for word.
Who knew that someone out there would have an experience identical to mine?
What was it like at the worst part of the obsession? How did you get over the unhealthy parts of it?
26 Jan 2010, 7:40 pm
I'm learning not to get into it any more.I relate. I've wasted at least twice that amount of time. bleh.
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