Females with AS vs males with AS

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What are the differences between females with AS and males with AS?

not much as far as i can see the only differences which are really noticeable are ones that are constructed by societies social norms for gender which is lies anyway lol

This has shown up here on another thread but I couldn't find it so I did the Google google.

www.help4aspergers.com/pb/wp_a58d4f6a/i ... 83e339.JPG

I was about to recommend that chart, and it was nice that it was posted. I will say for me personally, it is very accurate.

there have been a couple of threads on this topic on the women's forum.

Thanks.
I will have a search for similar topics already posted.
That table was very interesting, and I definately identified with a lot of the things listed on it.

From my reading and experience it would seem that the social norms for girls make AS traits in girls seem less out of the ordinary particularly in childhood, to the point where some people think only boys can have AS. I think it's partly because boys are stereotypically more into playing with each other and rough and tumble sort of stuff than girls who are more into toys or books, a girl who is more into the particular books or type of toy than the others is less likely to be seen as strange as the boy who abstains from all rough and tumble and lines up pebbles. I don't know if I'm saying what I'm trying to say here particularly well but it's an attempt nonetheless.

I've never seen that chart but I like it - definately a good amount of things I can identify with. I like that it mentions fiction. Most descriptions of people with AS promote the idea that we are rigidly factual and would much rather read a textbook than a novel, which for me is just not true. I've always had more of a tendency to try to place my imaginary worlds over my real life.

Female aspies don't have as many problems aspie males.

It's easier for females to make friends, go dating, and live a happier life.


/sarcasm

That's not the case for all female aspies.

Generally speaking:

Male Aspies are born as "Little Professors"

Female Aspies are born as "Little Philosophers"

I personally am more of a 'professor' type than a 'philosopher' type.

I was a little philosophy professor.



On the contrary, I think that girls' play is more social and mind-read-y than boy's play and it is much harder to fit into for an Aspie. Boys can make friends by running around together with a football. Girls usually don't have this option - it's socialise or die.

Also, if a boy doesn't want to play with other boys and would rather stay in and fiddle with bits of machinery, this is much more likely to be tolerated and encouraged than it would be for a girl. I liked technology when I was little - I wanted to be an Inventor. But when I moved home and lost my best friend (a boy) and I was incredibly miserable, no-one said "there there dear, here's a nice screwdriver and something to take apart." They told me to be nice to people. They said if I was nice to people and changed myself (??! ! I was 6 ! !) then I would be accepted.

I was good at Maths, too, and you know what one teacher did? Told me to do last year's sums again because I must have cheated, having finished them too quickly. Now is it just me, or could that possibly be ... hmm ... coz I is a girl?

I think women also take things much more literally than men ie. the small comment under my post...

I have just looked at the chart. There are 45 traits on the chart and I have 42 of them.

I wasn't sure if I had AS but I think I was looking at lists of male symptoms.

OK ... this is quite a big deal ...

Thats a really good chart. I really identified with most of it!