Who here has a successful relationship with an NT?

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Sure my GF is NT im glad really cuz she know stuff that i dont sometimes and good to exsplain them to me and i exsplain stuff to her aswell

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How about many unsuccessful relationships with NTs? The three biggest ones failed because two of them dumped me, but they both had addictions- one to alcohol, the other to prescription drugs, overspending and overreating. Just because someone is NT doesn't mean that their life is smooth sailing. The third, I broke it off- I just couldn't in the end tolerate that she was 8 years older thna me.
I spent a lot of my younger years chasing after an AS woman, on and off, but while we were platonic friends without benefits, she wouldn't drop her panties for me. She was probably either lesbian or asexual, since there never seemed to be any guys in her life.

Just becuse she wouldnt "drop her panties for you" disdt mean she didnt love you maybe she just wasnt ready?

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No, it wasn't just me. She wasn't dropping them for anyone.

Perhaps as Mouldy mentioned, she wasn't ready to do that with anyone

My boyfriend has AS and I suppose that I am NT in the loosest sense of the word.

I am a nursing student and my little sister has Autism, so him being on the spectrum wasn't really a big thing for me. We have been together for 4.5 years now and we have lived together for 1.5 of it.

I think it ultimately comes down to communication, which isn't always easy when you seem to be speaking two different languages. We give each other a lot of leeway for miscommunication before jumping down the others' throat. I also make sure that I'm really clear about what I want from him - it's much easier than expecting him to guess. Especially for major holidays and events, I plan things out and let him know way in advance so that he has enough time to plan out for it.

I've tried to learn to let little things go, like his quirks. For example, he likes to take "shortcuts" that end up being much longer than the typical routes and they get on my nerves. I just lay back and listen to the music whenever he does it not, just as he puts up with my sometimes incessant talking after a long day when I know he doesn't want to really hear me speak.

I think I am lucky in that my boyfriend has opened up to me a lot in the last couple of years and he still enjoys physical touch and closeness. At the same time, I am rather nurturing and we end up taking care of each other in different ways.

I don't think it has so much to do with his AS and my NT as it does with us talking and trusting each other.

Successful for whom?

If you are asking me, I would say yes. I have been married for 8 years and can't imagine anyone else who understands me or would put up with me like my wife does. My wife has a masters degree in communication disorders and frequently works with individuals with AS.

If you ask my wife, I am not sure what she would say. But, I do think there would be general concensus on the "no one would put up with me" part.

I am NT and "gifted" and a freelance roleplaying game writer, my SO is an aspie who manages to have a decent day job and is a electronica music composer and DJ (his main stim). We succeed because I listen to him, try to understand him, help him with his music as I am a musician also and we have the same interests and philosophies on many important things. Sometimes I think he is absolutely bugf*** nuts but I would not want it any other way as his uniqueness compliments my own personality quirks and we laugh together A LOT. He has quirks that drive me nuts but I accept them as part of being with them and some I have even adopted... he calls it "assimilation".LOL. There is constant touch and affection on our relationship and great passion. I simply accept him as he is and enjoy and welcome his different perspectives even tho we have come from very different planets.

Ponder this: when autistics don't marry or date other autistic people, they often end up marrying or dating bullies, who want nothing more than someone to control. These bullies sense the inability of an autistic person to set personal boundaries and are attracted to that. Teasing is cruel and is often used as a weapon. It is a way of putting yourself above someone, and not taking responsibilty for your cruelty, because after all, it was just a joke.
You could tell you're headed for disaster just by how fights end up. Every couple has disagreements but when the fighting switches from the actual disputed subject matter to insulting your very character, that's not very promising. Years ago, this NT couldn't take being with me anymore so he gets on his pulpit and starts his B.S. --- by berating me ---I finally said, "If you want to break up, finally do it already, nobody asked you for data or proof of how bad life was with me, just get the hell out already!" I was VERY unhappy with him too but got really mad with his insults. It wasn't my fault I wasn't the girl of his dreams. I was me and he was he.
People get upset when they just can't find what they want but that's no excuse to hate you because you're not it. They're like babies holding a splendid toy but it wasn't the toy they wanted so they must scream and yell and smash the toy about...eventually breaking it. Some other baby could enjoy that toy but because some "babies" are so self-involved they have to smash it up so they don't have to see another baby enjoying the toy because their wants were probably unrealistic in the first place.

I do! We haven't been dating very long, but things are wonderful. There are the occasional "shut downs" whenever I say something unexpected. The first time he did that, it scared me. I didn't understand why he wasn't responding and assumed he was upset with me, but it wasn't that at all. He didn't have a defense to the question I asked him. I understand this will happen from time to time. The best way to be successful in this type of relationship is lots of honesty and communication. I read a lot about Asperger's when I started dating him so I was better able to understand his obsessions, "shut downs" etc. I think we work well together. He acts so much different around me now that he's gotten comfortable. He socializes more. I guess you could say he feeds off me a little during conversations. It's almost like I make up for whatever he's lacking in social skills but he's learning so well. I think NT/Aspie relationships can be very rewarding for both. I highly recommend this sort of relationship. The only problem we're having is sex difficulties (him orgasming). This is not a huge problem really. I just feel like it's me or something to that effect. I get the feeling it will get better though but I give this relationship 5 stars!