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26 Feb 2010, 8:20 am

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Told her. She also said she feels the same for me, but split between 2 guys. Will see where it goes.


That's great news! But does that mean she plans on dating both of you, or that she just needs time to decide?



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26 Feb 2010, 8:53 am

Lene wrote:
KnightGhost wrote:
Told her. She also said she feels the same for me, but split between 2 guys. Will see where it goes.


That's great news! But does that mean she plans on dating both of you, or that she just needs time to decide?

Both.



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28 Feb 2010, 11:02 pm

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Lene wrote:
KnightGhost wrote:
Told her. She also said she feels the same for me, but split between 2 guys. Will see where it goes.


That's great news! But does that mean she plans on dating both of you, or that she just needs time to decide?

Both.


I believe, if you lived closer to one another your relationship would have a better chance.

It seems as though you both are waiting for the other one to make the first compromise. Her ending her relationship with this man. And you quiting your job and moving to her location. But you really would rather have her relocate to where you live because of your job. It appears to be a stalemate. You both should discuss this (if you haven't already) and decide if you really want to commit to your relationship and make the necessary compromises so you can be together. Maybe you can work out trial arrangements to be together in both locations to see what works. I wish you both the best. Please let us know how it goes.

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01 Mar 2010, 8:44 am

Taupey wrote:
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Lene wrote:
KnightGhost wrote:
Told her. She also said she feels the same for me, but split between 2 guys. Will see where it goes.


That's great news! But does that mean she plans on dating both of you, or that she just needs time to decide?

Both.


I believe, if you lived closer to one another your relationship would have a better chance.

It seems as though you both are waiting for the other one to make the first compromise. Her ending her relationship with this man. And you quiting your job and moving to her location. But you really would rather have her relocate to where you live because of your job. It appears to be a stalemate. You both should discuss this (if you haven't already) and decide if you really want to commit to your relationship and make the necessary compromises so you can be together. Maybe you can work out trial arrangements to be together in both locations to see what works. I wish you both the best. Please let us know how it goes.

Taupey

Working on a trial arrangement at the moment. Problem is that I can't find a job there, even one that pays half of what I make now. Working on compromises...



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01 Mar 2010, 4:22 pm

KnightGhost wrote:
Taupey wrote:
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Lene wrote:
KnightGhost wrote:
Told her. She also said she feels the same for me, but split between 2 guys. Will see where it goes.


That's great news! But does that mean she plans on dating both of you, or that she just needs time to decide?

Both.


I believe, if you lived closer to one another your relationship would have a better chance.

It seems as though you both are waiting for the other one to make the first compromise. Her ending her relationship with this man. And you quiting your job and moving to her location. But you really would rather have her relocate to where you live because of your job. It appears to be a stalemate. You both should discuss this (if you haven't already) and decide if you really want to commit to your relationship and make the necessary compromises so you can be together. Maybe you can work out trial arrangements to be together in both locations to see what works. I wish you both the best. Please let us know how it goes.

Taupey

Working on a trial arrangement at the moment. Problem is that I can't find a job there, even one that pays half of what I make now. Working on compromises...


That's great that you both are moving along. Is it possible an arrangement can be made where you will pay for her move to where you live and work and also back to her original location if it doesn't work out? I'm in a long distance relationship but we aren't as far along as you and your girlfriend are. It would feel strange to have someone paying all of my expenses but that maybe because I'm not use to it, I've been independent for so long. And I don't have the expense of children either.



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01 Mar 2010, 7:47 pm

Cost isn't a problem, I make 6 figures. May even have a 2nd house there and see how it goes.



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01 Mar 2010, 9:10 pm

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Cost isn't a problem, I make 6 figures. May even have a 2nd house there and see how it goes.


That sounds like a great idea! :)



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16 Mar 2010, 10:42 pm

Epic Failure. An Aspie simply can't compete against a Player, especially when distance is involved.



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16 Mar 2010, 11:33 pm

Ugh.... sorry to hear. What happened?



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17 Mar 2010, 12:02 am

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Epic Failure. An Aspie simply can't compete against a Player, especially when distance is involved.


I'm sorry to hear that Knight Ghost. :(



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17 Mar 2010, 7:43 am

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Epic Failure. An Aspie simply can't compete against a Player, especially when distance is involved.


Sorry to hear that. Better luck next time!



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20 Mar 2010, 3:10 am

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Just explain to her about her aspergers and tell her not to date him because he's an NT and they use people and manipulate them and bully us.


Wow. Way to effectively cut yourself off from a HUGE pool of potential partners and friends.