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Would you ever enlist yourself in any match-making agency / dating site?
Yes 20%  20%  [ 20 ]
Yes 20%  20%  [ 20 ]
Never 13%  13%  [ 13 ]
Never 13%  13%  [ 13 ]
Um... I'd think about it but... 18%  18%  [ 18 ]
Um... I'd think about it but... 18%  18%  [ 18 ]
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19 Mar 2006, 5:49 pm

Well that's a nifty idea. A dating site where all entrees on the menu are AS-autistic and anybody viewing the list is aware of its members' common trait beforehand.

What I wonder about is who is reading that menu other than WP'ers and whether they are in the same cities as us or hailing from neighboring cities. I would think those odds are slim but not impossible. The closest WP'er I know of to where I live is about 4 hour's drive away. OTOH, some folks in my area that are affiliated with Aspies are aware of WP's existence on the 'net.

The AsAf members are geographically very scattered. There are a few ladies there that I would feel honored to be able to meet and get to know but enormous distances as well as oceans separate us. Such a pursuit is not doable unless I win the lottery tomorrow :wink:

The effectiveness of AsAf still looks untested for the most part. I now leave it open for all to share your thoughts.

Normally, I'd never resort to any match-making entity, considering my limitations and a competition that is stiff enough for NT males as it is. AsAf being what it is, I took the plunge and made a page in there as a blatant visual display as an eligible bachelor from that group of people.


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19 Mar 2006, 6:25 pm

I wouldn't.. whether it be an aspie site or an NT site.. I'd rather meet someone normally..

I don't think dating another aspie would be good for me, either.



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19 Mar 2006, 6:27 pm

Yes- I'm on OKcupid, but it's only to keep track of the tests I take on there and to create them myself.



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20 Mar 2006, 11:11 am

Ditto Serissa.



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27 Mar 2006, 1:25 pm

You're kidding, right? I'm twitchy enough about people when I can actually SEE them! Never.



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29 Mar 2006, 1:31 pm

I think you will be fine as long as your carefull. I would not try to read into it fully. I guess it cause I can gifted aspie. The strange thing is I am parnoid cause of pstd. Isolation for 23 year will do it. I don't trust my mom either there are very few I trust in my family. My brother says he tries not have too many close friend because people untrusting he is nt no pstd.



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29 Mar 2006, 1:37 pm

This a hot body on the move. I am little concerned though sometimes I get real picture of how skinny I am and how it relates to intestinal health. 5 feet 8 inches 150 lbs is skinny and muscular upper and lower body. I lost 20 lbs in one month for no reason. My fuckn metabolism does not let me gain much weight go to watch for caxchexia wasting syndrome cause I have cancer people keep saying I will be fine 2 year over max life span.



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29 Mar 2006, 1:50 pm

Am I being dissed. cause what if that aspie has better social skills that is the thing that urkes me can;t use them have them better than average aspie read people well. Just weighting for the right thing and pow. I would agree with you on part It might not tollerate it well. Although there is the understanding and it would be something you could have in common. I would be less paranoid and that would help alot. I am cool but people f**k with me. I don;t get mad I think they are jealous cause I have body and brains, or they lack compassion and maybe they have autism or they have pscholgical issue. I might just pear into their motives to a list of possible stuff I have read. I do awesome I feal sorry for them too. I am weird sensitive man but part I am not gay.



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29 Mar 2006, 2:11 pm

I've noticed there's already an African mail-order bride on Aspie Affection...



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29 Mar 2006, 2:26 pm

Why don't you try and sign up? there are only 14 females though



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29 Mar 2006, 3:01 pm

Florescent wrote:
Why don't you try and sign up? there are only 14 females though


Sorry, just interested in casual sex here.



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29 Mar 2006, 3:55 pm

Such websites do work, but you have to find the right one. A female co-worker of mine in her mid-20s has been going out with her boyfriend for two years, and they live together now. They met using LavaLife.

The problem with some websites for me, at least where I live, is that they have no shortage of Americans, but very few Canadians. I've had girls from Ohio and Michigan contact me and show good interest, but they're all too far away for me. I can't see myself starting a relationship with someone who is a six-hour drive away. (As the crow flies they don't live far away, but due to the Great Lakes one must drive for hours just to get to the other side of Lake Ontario or Lake Erie.) LavaLife seems to be one of the few sites that have a lot of Canadians.

So far on Aspie Affection, there are four girls in my age group - three Americans (one being Carla), and an Aussie (PhoenixKitten).



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29 Mar 2006, 5:17 pm

wtf as one of the moderators said. There is no casual sex. There are children you know could you really handle them? I have had no friend or relationships for 23 years and that is not how my attitude is. That is one reason you can't get women. They are not stupid hoes. I wonder if you get slapped often. Is slapped the closed you can get to the women? I had to rotten mood laugh with me.. You know there is hoes and my sister is a stripper. You can get over the social issues you know. Social stuff is logical to me came through observation. Yah I know something is wrong. Simle..



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29 Mar 2006, 6:03 pm

That is not funny. It took me a while cause I am tired. I am not gay. If you want to be a f**k head I will. I don't know what you saying considering your aspie with poor social skills. You are fuckn triggering my trauma ok that is why bothered. You see what happens to you if you were in my situation cause I don;t think you could handle it. You know and that autistic hostiliyt I did not know how you were going to react. Go damn I am on apie affection I winked at a women I told you how many were on. Yeah I have it to but it rarely showes. I appologize a head a time if this is not the case. other wise f off



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30 Mar 2006, 12:42 am

What I'm saying is that I find dating sites stupid and that I know that the kind of sex I want only exists in porn.



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30 Mar 2006, 7:49 am

It is really not that fun just having sex all the time. Can you handle the talking part? I know I don't like being lonely all the time. Otherwise call my sister don't think she does sex though. I handle the talking part better more like an nt when I am calm. You need that for life in general. There is no way around it if you want them you must find someway to handle social aspect.