What's the 1 thing you wish other people knew?

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09 Mar 2010, 12:57 am

That different people are interesting, not frightening.


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09 Mar 2010, 3:52 am

I wish everyone had built-in AS radar. I think that would make life a little more bearable.


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09 Mar 2010, 8:35 am

I don't know if starting this thread threw this question upon me, but I was asked this twice yesterday by two different people at the end of a presentation. I, again, was unable to answer.



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09 Mar 2010, 10:49 am

In just a few words: I am different, not less.

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30 Mar 2011, 9:56 am

That me being on the dole for 2 and a half years does not mean I'm being lazy. It is caused by poor motivation, anxiety, depression, and very low self-esteem. And before anyone joins the criticising game, I'll have you know I do lots of voluntary work to help build my confidence - but it hasn't helped. I seem more anxious than ever. And medication - forget it. It doesn't work on me. Maybe I've got a type of mind where whatever I try to do, I get pushed back even further.


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30 Mar 2011, 12:27 pm

Jingo8 wrote:
I'm trying harder than they will ever realise.


this ^^^ there are so many things but this is the biggest because unless you have the disorder you cant really know what its like and how much i have to work for the simplest things.



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30 Mar 2011, 12:46 pm

That an invisible disability is nevertheless a disability.

That a disability in someone who's cognitively-functional or even exceptional is NEVERTHELESS A DISABILITY.


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30 Mar 2011, 1:15 pm

That it would be a mistake to take my special interests away from me, or try to get me to change and be like everybody.


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30 Mar 2011, 1:38 pm

That just about any instant judgement they can make about me, is likely wrong. Because I operate on a very different set of abilities and difficulties than most people, and even those abilities and difficulties are not stable. I become very sick of what I call "assumption ping-pong" when I first get to know people, it's one of the biggest barriers to getting to know someone. What I mean is they assume one thing, and when I say it's not true, then they go and assume some "opposite" thing that is no more true, and if they even stick around and trust me long enough (which many don't bother with), it takes a long time to get to the truth about who I am. It's much better if they would just not make assumptions about the rest of my life based on one small aspect of my life at one particular moment.


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30 Mar 2011, 1:59 pm

k2magic wrote:
Jingo8 wrote:
I'm trying harder than they will ever realise.


this ^^^ there are so many things but this is the biggest because unless you have the disorder you cant really know what its like and how much i have to work for the simplest things.


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30 Mar 2011, 3:36 pm

I know the world can't revolve around me, but if I had my way I would make sure the government don't cut back my bus service - the bus service in which I use every day and is also my obsession, enjoyment, relaxation, and.....can't think of any other synonyms.


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31 Mar 2011, 12:50 am

Jingo8 wrote:
I'm trying harder than they will ever realise.


This is what I wish others knew about me too :(



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31 Mar 2011, 2:40 am

Just because I make an observation it doesn't mean I've made a value judgement about what I've observed.



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31 Mar 2011, 6:07 am

That I often really want to connect with someone but I don't know how to do it



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01 Apr 2011, 5:29 pm

That my cheerful, helpful, enthusiastic demeanour is a carefully constructed act that I've assembled over many years and that it really does tire me out to maintain it all the time. It's a fine balance - the right level of humour, while being careful not to make jokes that would be deemed inappropriate; the right level of enthusiasm, because being too upbeat during times of stress or grief is a social disaster. Make eye contact and make small talk, but don't go too far by staring or gibbering. Moderate your opinions, because what seems eminently sensible to you seems to upset some people.

I need social interaction, but too much is almost painful.