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Danielismyname
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15 Mar 2010, 5:20 pm

That'd be a negative [at 28].

Funnily enough though, I wouldn't want to move away from here if I could. The one thing I want to change, which I'm working towards, and that's getting a decent job whilst still living here with my mother; the money will help me improve this place and add things to it that I want.



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15 Mar 2010, 6:25 pm

I'm 18, but since I'm still in high school, I still live with my parents. I'll be living with my parents for the next two or so years as well, as I will be attending community college. Afterward, I'm going to transfer to a university and try to get a dorm.

Once I am out on my own, I'd like to get an apartment because they're cheaper. I'd also like to get at least one roommate because it'd be boring if I were by myself and I want to split the rent.



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15 Mar 2010, 9:04 pm

I live with my mum, but she's barely here so it's like I live on my own. I just don't pay for bills or do shopping. My mum does take about $120 from my bank account to pay for these things though, and I have offered to pay a huge chunk of her mortgage which she refused.
Right now I'm still new to the working world, and I don't think even after a year I'd want to get a new job. It was so hard to get just one. So if I move it would have to be somewhere in this stink town with a short walking distance from work.
I'm content with living with my mum. Her christianity rants annoy me though.


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15 Mar 2010, 9:45 pm

dt18 wrote:
That's probably what my life is going to be. I'll be able to do everything BUT have a social life. It will be wake up, eat, go to work, sleep, repeat. Pretty damn boring if you ask me. *sigh*


I can find this with a limited social life( only my wife here)
Hobbies don't cut it anymore with me.....(perhaps a middle aged thing)
Her children and grandchild keep her going.

It seems that most people are able to mitigate this either by raising children and living their life thru their children's eyes, and their children's children ,or by having a 'fantastic career'.



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15 Mar 2010, 11:31 pm

Well if you say you have a limited social life, how did you meet your wife anyways? I would think without a social life, finding the right woman would be next to impossible.



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15 Mar 2010, 11:59 pm

Nope. I can take care of my own basic needs, for the most part, but I can't provide for myself yet. One day, I think I will be able to; but that won't be very soon. I still have an awful lot to learn.


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16 Mar 2010, 12:47 am

Doesn't work for me. Tried many times but there was just too much too handle. Found it easier to live with someone and hand them my paycheck and things would just get done. I know that if I wasn't in the situation I am now and had to be on my own I would end up on the street. Been there; not a pleasant place.



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16 Mar 2010, 5:31 am

dt18 wrote:
Well if you say you have a limited social life, how did you meet your wife anyways? I would think without a social life, finding the right woman would be next to impossible.


Through word of mouth I did some repair work on her house( Im handy) and I found someone on the same wavelenght.
But she pursued me , as she was my first date ever.
This probability was remote, like maybe getting struck by lightning....(no pun)

What about a/s support groups for you ,and could you perhaps find someone in this?



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16 Mar 2010, 8:08 am

I'm sort of successfully living independently. I have a lot of help (govt assistance and family), but as far as other things go, I've also got a bf (5 years now), 2 kiddos (one of them on the spectrum, the other not 100% sure).

We do alright.

I don't like getting so much help and would like to be even more independent, but I'm thankful that I'm pretty much my own boss and don't need a ton of help in every day life (well, inside the house).

Outside of the house is a different story, as I have to interact more with strangers and don't enjoy it much. Boyfriend helps me out with this type of stuff sometimes.


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16 Mar 2010, 9:02 am

Mdyar wrote:
dt18 wrote:
Well if you say you have a limited social life, how did you meet your wife anyways? I would think without a social life, finding the right woman would be next to impossible.


Through word of mouth I did some repair work on her house( Im handy) and I found someone on the same wavelenght.
But she pursued me , as she was my first date ever.
This probability was remote, like maybe getting struck by lightning....(no pun)

What about a/s support groups for you ,and could you perhaps find someone in this?


What do you mean by "same wavelength"? And as long as I live with my parents, I don't think I'll be able to go to support groups, as much as I've considered it. My parents don't want me to think I'm autistic, even though I know I am. I was formally diagnosed at the age of 3, but they always say it was the wrong diagnosis. The reason I think I have autism is because of the things I do. I tend to talk out of turn, I had hand flapping habits as a little kid, and I don't have much of a social life. Despite this, my parents still deny it.



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16 Mar 2010, 11:28 am

I live in a supported living i moved in january 2010 and i love it here, It is for people with learning disabilities and i am the only one with autism and they dont know much about autism so i educate them, i also give them information on things about BPD because i got the borderline personality disorder too so i try to help them understand me.



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16 Mar 2010, 11:39 am

I currently Live with my parents but I want to move out. I was in an apartment for a year with a roomate. We had subleted an apartment for a month before our one year lease started. Unfortunately my roommate decided it was a good idea to quit her full time job a week before our lease started an never got another job for a duration of the time we had the apartment. I did manage to find a job for her but then she quit after the first day of training... I was able to make rent payments but it pissed me off when Id come home after working 2 jobs and she would be watching tv and eating the food I bought for myself while dressed in her pyjamas. Everytime I would talk to her about getting a job she would give me some sob story about how she couldn't find a job (which I thought was total bs). We're still friends now but I can't live with her again. For some reason she's under the impression that I want to get another apartment with her again but I think she's piggybacking on my desire for independance.

I want to be on my own, alone, with no one else in the house (or apartment if I really have to). I want a place where I'm in control of everything. When you live with someone else you have to relinquish some of that control. I've lived 25 years with the only control I've had is over my own bedroom and I'm feeling caged in. Once I'm done paying off all my debts I plan on moving out again and finding a job that I enjoy :)



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16 Mar 2010, 2:23 pm

Cannot live as independent adult in my 30s. Require services.



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16 Mar 2010, 8:37 pm

I live on my own, but I do have staff for 4hrs a day, 3 days a week to help clean, run errands, and help me not have a meltdown in public.


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16 Mar 2010, 8:44 pm

Autistic-Me_Star wrote:
I live in a supported living i moved in january 2010 and i love it here, It is for people with learning disabilities and i am the only one with autism and they dont know much about autism so i educate them, i also give them information on things about BPD because i got the borderline personality disorder too so i try to help them understand me.


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16 Mar 2010, 8:54 pm

I'm pre-diagnosis so who know if I have AS or if there is something else going on with me.

However, I'm able to live independently, pay my mortgage and work full-time. My social life is fairly limited though. I do have some really good friends, but I only see them about once a month as everyone is busy living there own lives. Without the internet, I feel I would be a really lonely person, but the internet provides the social interaction I crave without needing to deal with people in person.