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lyricalillusions
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24 Mar 2010, 1:00 am

I've only really been affected by two deaths in my life. The second was about 2 1/2 years ago & was worse. The first was when I was four years old. It was my great aunt &, after seeing her at her funeral, I became confused & scared. The second was my cat. I know a lot of people will diminish the validity of the pain because he was an animal & not a person, but it affected me far worse than anything has ever affected me in my life. I still haven't gotten over it. I don't think my mom will make it to see 2011, not unless something drastic with her health happens. I know I will not be able to deal with her death, seeing as how she is all I have.


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24 Mar 2010, 4:23 am

death is just a part of the circle of life. when i pass-on from this world i will enter the next world, and eventually matriculate back into another earth life for yet another go-'round at the karmic wheel. i just hope i perform a little better next time, and i hope that the next time is a better life in general.



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24 Mar 2010, 9:28 am

I lost my mother 13 years ago and both my brother and father (separately) in the six months.

Mother's death hit me hard (I was 28) and think it forced me to start thinking "like an adult" for the first time. I still miss her especially when I am very sad or confused.

Brother and dad have left me numb and feeling very alone (even though we weren't that close anymore).

A few days before he passed, my dad (with advanced alzhiemers and heart failure) said he was moving to a new neighborhood.... that my mother and brother were there and that I wasn't allowed. This freaked me out a little and comforted me a little (ya know?).

Anyway, I kind of like the thought that someone in the afterlife is looking after us. BUT, I think when I die I'd really just like some peace and quiet and nothingness without having to worry about everything left on earth. LOL



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24 Mar 2010, 2:09 pm

I lost my maternal grandmother about 11 years ago, when she was aged 100. There was no emotional drama, though. She was a remarkable woman, who led a full and rich life. At the end she was occasionally taking an aspirin to help her sleep, but was otherwise in good, if declining, health. Her short term memory was somewhat poor in the last decade of her life, but her long term memory was extraordinarily good.

I cannot speak to how I will cope with my parents' demise. Both are in their 70s and beginning to present health concerns. But given the inevitability of their deaths, I will adopt the strategy of maximizing my relationship with them in whatever time is available. If I can do that, I think there will be little drama at the end.


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