Body language is a stupid language!! !

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11 Apr 2010, 5:01 am

Aspiewordsmith wrote:
I agree it is stupid it is not a language in my opinion as it is more animalistic. all this sending out signals. A complete waste of time unless you are a monkey. Monkeys use body language but they can't speak Humans do not have that excuse for this simian form of behaviour.:arrow:


I might be inclined to agree with this. Also, the neurotypical social radar does mis-interpret all sorts of Autistic movements as 'cues' and 'signals' when we are not sending any 'body language' message, but simply perhaps even stimming. I also wish they would just listen to our words.



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11 Apr 2010, 5:05 am

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I disagree. Body language may, generally, be extremely informative and important. Let me give you an example:
Police officers are called to a house by a concerned neighbour. He suspects that the woman's abusive ex-husband is back, and asks the police to come by and check. The police knocks on the door, the woman opens. The officers ask: "Everything all right here, ma'am?" The woman replies: "Yes, of course". Based on the fear the officers can read from the woman's body language (posture, look in her eyes, tense lips, arms crossed stiffly, etc.), they realize that something is in fact very, very wrong. And they intervene.

Should e.g. police officers act solely upon information coming from people's mouth, they wouldn't be able to prevent much crime, I'll tell you.

I work as an interpreter, and for me the information gleaned from observing the client's body language is very important when I strive to convey the client's message as precisely as possible.
The fact that much body language (like for instance playing with one's hair) may be interpreted in a number of ways, does not make it useless. In combination with context and words uttered, a person's body language fills in the blanks and completes the picture. For the vast majority, body language is something which we rely upon even if we're not very aware of it. :)


This level of Autism ignorance would be very likely to bring an ADA lawsuit. I can frequently be crying when I am laughing, and laughing when I am crying. I cannot control my eye gaze very well, or body posture, stimming, or much of anything else - anyone who tried to "read" my Autistic savant "body language" would very likely go totally wrong.



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11 Apr 2010, 5:10 am

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Body language is communication shorthand. It would take FOREVER if we had to communicate everything we wished to communicate, including all subtleties, via just words. And it would also take a considerable amount of energy for the listener to discern all information from a single mode of communication.

Multiple modes are better, even if there are those of who suck at it. :P


Of course, there are Autistic savants who do not communicate / understand "body language" AND don't communicate in words - some of us use language in pictures, also PECs systems.

Wow - some neurotypicals here really have a lot to learn about Autism, and I hope their false sense of Autism reality doesn't lead them to commit any hate crimes on any Autistic people in the meantime.



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11 Apr 2010, 7:19 am

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What bothers me about body language is that when the body language and the words don't match up (which for me is all the time) people are more inclined to go by body language. And I put an enormous amount of effort into choosing my words carefully and precisely.

Very frustrating.


People are more inclined to lie with their words, less so with their bodies. ;)


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11 Apr 2010, 7:33 am

I agree with it being an important language as well.

I'm quite expressive,but my body language can be misread a LOT by people who don't know me

I often look bored when I'm actually interested and I always look like I'm not listening because I can't make eye contact without cringing so I always look everywhere but



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11 Apr 2010, 7:45 am

Sophist wrote:
People are more inclined to lie with their words, less so with their bodies. ;)
Unless they know.
I wonder if people with ASPD can lie with their body language?
That would be cool.



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11 Apr 2010, 3:09 pm

EquiisSavant wrote:
Jaydee wrote:
I disagree. Body language may, generally, be extremely informative and important. Let me give you an example:
Police officers are called to a house by a concerned neighbour. He suspects that the woman's abusive ex-husband is back, and asks the police to come by and check. The police knocks on the door, the woman opens. The officers ask: "Everything all right here, ma'am?" The woman replies: "Yes, of course". Based on the fear the officers can read from the woman's body language (posture, look in her eyes, tense lips, arms crossed stiffly, etc.), they realize that something is in fact very, very wrong. And they intervene.

Should e.g. police officers act solely upon information coming from people's mouth, they wouldn't be able to prevent much crime, I'll tell you.

I work as an interpreter, and for me the information gleaned from observing the client's body language is very important when I strive to convey the client's message as precisely as possible.
The fact that much body language (like for instance playing with one's hair) may be interpreted in a number of ways, does not make it useless. In combination with context and words uttered, a person's body language fills in the blanks and completes the picture. For the vast majority, body language is something which we rely upon even if we're not very aware of it. :)


This level of Autism ignorance would be very likely to bring an ADA lawsuit. I can frequently be crying when I am laughing, and laughing when I am crying. I cannot control my eye gaze very well, or body posture, stimming, or much of anything else - anyone who tried to "read" my Autistic savant "body language" would very likely go totally wrong.

Yep, I think you might be right. It may be difficult for people to correctly interpret unusual body language. But the weird thing is, more often than not, it will work out fairly ok. Because people will, more often than not, be able to somehow perceive that any unusual combination of body language and words, or body language unusual in the context, signal something they cannot properly understand and it will hopefully promt them to not jump to conclusions about what the person means. For me, it's not difficult to understand fairly quickly to take extra care when I meet people with a combination of body language and context which is unusual. It's easy to spot.



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11 Apr 2010, 3:11 pm

Ah....Yay for smart NTs like you, Janissy, and my mom...:)


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12 Apr 2010, 12:57 am

Klingon should become the standard


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12 Apr 2010, 1:38 am

it's not stupid. it's actually a very efficient way of encoding basic information. You can (well, if you're not like me, anyway) encode this information while discussing entirely different subject matters. You can be exchanging data on nuclear chain reactions while simultaneously making arrangements for a conjugal encounter. It's like being a computer with several ports over which data can be sent.

Furthermore, it's advantageous because it's precognitive. Advantageous in the sense of natural selection. It allows certain basic drives (toward sex, for example) to operate in spite of top down processes that would rather focus on something else. So while it may be not helping *you* the individual, it is working overtime to ensure that your genes are "happy".



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12 Apr 2010, 2:08 am

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it's not stupid. it's actually a very efficient way of encoding basic information. You can (well, if you're not like me, anyway) encode this information while discussing entirely different subject matters. You can be exchanging data on nuclear chain reactions while simultaneously making arrangements for a conjugal encounter. It's like being a computer with several ports over which data can be sent.

Furthermore, it's advantageous because it's precognitive. Advantageous in the sense of natural selection. It allows certain basic drives (toward sex, for example) to operate in spite of top down processes that would rather focus on something else. So while it may be not helping *you* the individual, it is working overtime to ensure that your genes are "happy".


my genes dont need body language to be happy


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12 Apr 2010, 4:50 am

ursaminor wrote:
Sophist wrote:
People are more inclined to lie with their words, less so with their bodies. ;)
Unless they know.
I wonder if people with ASPD can lie with their body language?
That would be cool.

If you know enough body language I'm sure you could fake it if you wanted to.
I'm not sure if it would be easy or hard.
I'd attempt it but I'd probably forget to do it like I forget to use body language in a normal situation.

I worded that poorly but hopefully you get it.


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12 Apr 2010, 6:01 am

i wouldn't call it stupid. i just wish that it was more like other languages with an assortment of texts and dictionaries about to help you learn it. there are very many moments in life where someone makes a gesture that i cant understand and wouldn't it be nice if i could go home and look it up in my body language dictionary?

(such things do exist but they aren't anything as common as your french textbooks or japanese dictionaries.)


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12 Apr 2010, 6:33 am

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my genes dont need body language to be happy


lotta little Eggkids out there, are there? ;)



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12 Apr 2010, 4:54 pm

EquiisSavant wrote:
Sophist wrote:
Body language is communication shorthand. It would take FOREVER if we had to communicate everything we wished to communicate, including all subtleties, via just words. And it would also take a considerable amount of energy for the listener to discern all information from a single mode of communication.

Multiple modes are better, even if there are those of who suck at it. :P


Of course, there are Autistic savants who do not communicate / understand "body language" AND don't communicate in words - some of us use language in pictures, also PECs systems.

Wow - some neurotypicals here really have a lot to learn about Autism, and I hope their false sense of Autism reality doesn't lead them to commit any hate crimes on any Autistic people in the meantime.


I'm not exactly certain, since you're quoting me, whether you're leveling the NT accusation my way. But I'm not NT, have been here on WP, albeit on extended hiatus the last two years, since 2005.

Autism isn't a special club btw. The human species runs a range of abilities when it comes to interpreting verbal and nonverbal languages. The side of the human spectrum upon which autism falls tends to have more difficulties with multitasking interpretation of incoming sensory information, making simultaneous decoding of multiple cues more challenging. C'est tout.

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Unless they know.
I wonder if people with ASPD can lie with their body language?
That would be cool.


My guess would be that in general it's harder to lie with the body because it is not under the same level of voluntary emotional control as language seems to be, particularly when it comes to facial expression. Not that it's impossible, as every actor has to lie in order to be believable. But I suspect it's just harder to do so.


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12 Apr 2010, 9:17 pm

ProfessorAspie wrote:
Eggman wrote:

my genes dont need body language to be happy


lotta little Eggkids out there, are there? ;)

And?


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