Turn-offs

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Interested to see the turn offs for other aspies. What are yours?

first and foremost:
bullies

smoking cigs

Ignorance.

Manipulation/dishonesty.

Excessive need for control.

Facebook obsession.

Smoking.

I can be around people who smoke for maybe a day or two at the most, but after that, I start to get unhappy and I know I probably wouldn't want to be around the smell every day.

I work hard and make choices directed at making things better for myself and preventing unnecessary damage and morbidity. Shouldn't I choose a partner who does the same? Smart and savvy is sexy. Smoking is not smart, savvy or sexy.

There are alternatives for people who enjoy nicotine, such as the gum and the e-cigarette. There's really no reason to use burning tobacco unless one also enjoys inhaling carcinogenic, emphysema-inducing combustion byproducts, looking bad and smelling bad. Imagine someone looking all haggard, in a wheelchair and adult diapers and having to cart a clunky oxygen unit around. Not exactly sexy, is it?

A woman told me that she's quit smoking, at least for the duration of her pregnancy, out of concern for the baby. Then I thought, why wasn't concern for her own health enough? Disregard for one's own health and hygiene, and the health and comfort of others isn't sexy.

I start having doubts if I see something that may lead to arguments later down the road, like if they're very religious or very conservative. Also, if they appear mentally unstable.

That's mostly it?

Arrogance/Big Ego
Manipulation
Fake Feminism
Bi-sexuals (this is because of an ex gf before anyone passes judgement)

Smoking in women is disgusting.
Good thing i'm not attracted to women.

Many of those listed here though smoking obviously isn't. Nasty ole' smoker here. Guilty.

Would like to add that I hate watching/listening to the social pecking order game. Much less be part of it. You know how it is. You and one get along fine. Add a few more and that close, dear person suddenly seems like your social adversary. Maybe most NT's aren't even self aware enough to realize it for what it is. But all the chest thumping and getting loud, silly, and faux pas aggressive to snag attention and assert their will to power. Blah, blah. Whatever, man. Looks as sad from my side as I must look from yours for not playing.

I don't mind smoking in men.

Some turn offs for me:

1)Lapdogs - no time for guys like that at all
2)Arrogant men with a superiority complex
3)Bitchy men
4)Men who like anime
5)Whiny submissive men/pushovers
6)guys who always objectify women, talk about "f*****g" and crude sexual things, and their boners and stuff
7) Narrow minded men
8. Intense personalities

Desperation, athough that comes under 1) 5) and 6)

Smoking, vulgar language, phoniness.

Wow, we women smokers are out of luck, aren't we.