Have you never been to a party? (college type or non family)

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24 Apr 2010, 6:09 pm

As in College party or some fancy thing like that? Family yes! Social gatherings (family yes) around people (Mall,Theme Park,Store,NYC yes) but a College party or adult party (drinking etc. ton of people NOT just a friend or 2 or family a Party PARTY) :-)



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24 Apr 2010, 6:18 pm

I've been to a party with more acquaintances rather than close friends, but I've only been when I was friends with a certain girl. She was popular from dating around a lot, and she was pretty social. I wouldn't have known how to really invite myself, but she knew how to get invited but didn't like to go alone so she took me lots of places. I never see her anymore, so I don't go to those parties either. I didn't have much to do cause I didn't get into the drinking and drugs, but I enjoyed watching people's conversations...sometimes joining in.



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24 Apr 2010, 6:36 pm

No kind of college party, but some family parties, including one when my mother reached a certain age. There were so many people that I stayed in my room with the door locked most of the time and played video games. For the people that did came into my room, I quickly got annoyed at them asking so many bloody questions about what the stuff in my room was.


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24 Apr 2010, 7:16 pm

Back when I was still trying really hard to fit in, I went to a few large college parties where I only knew 1-3 people (all of which left me all alone every single time). I ended up being so uncomfortable that I drank myself stupid, one time to the point where I was having blackouts and threw up on the sidewalk. That's when I decided to stop trying and also to stop drinking (because clearly I don't know my limits). Other than that, the only parties I've been to were back when I had a big group of friends one summer and we had a few parties of about 10 people but they were all people I knew and it was really fun until everyone got drunk and stupid. Also a few months ago my one remaining friend invited me to his work party and I forced myself to go but it was very, very boring and awkward for me. So no more parties for me in the near future, I just don't find them enjoyable.


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24 Apr 2010, 7:22 pm

I have been to one, but I left pretty quickly. It was both boring and nerve racking simultaneously.
The fact that it was a costume party made things easier though, I just wore a mask, drank some vodka, and talked to whoever came my way :lol:.



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24 Apr 2010, 7:55 pm

Sure, I always go to parties when I'm invited. Mostly for the food. :D I don't drink at all and don't care much about chatting. I usually just pig out on the party food. Take a walk around the area, notice decorations and art. Sometimes I sit at a corner and observe other people. Say hi and bye to a few people. Then find excuse to leave early.



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24 Apr 2010, 9:05 pm

I tend to go to them when the occasion arises but I usually want to leave not long after I get there.
Smaller parties or get-togethers are much more to my liking and I'm more comfortable.
I always thought it would be cool as hell to be a party animal but socially it's just not in me.



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24 Apr 2010, 9:13 pm

i've tried going out a few times, i often leave after approx 1hour or 1h and a half, i sometimes "try" to initiate conversations though.



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24 Apr 2010, 9:23 pm

I have a friend who has nighttime bonfires sometimes. I've been to two or three. Not many strange people show up, so it's relaxing.


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24 Apr 2010, 10:06 pm

I've been to a couple, and unless I know the people very well, they just seem to happen around me. I'm not comfortable and I don't know how to join in the conversation. Right now I have no friends in the city I'm in and go to a big anonymous school so I don't really have a social life.


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24 Apr 2010, 10:10 pm

No. And I'd probably be willing to chew my own leg off to get away from one.


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24 Apr 2010, 10:35 pm

Callista wrote:
No. And I'd probably be willing to chew my own leg off to get away from one.


I second that. I HATE PARTY!! !!


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24 Apr 2010, 11:46 pm

Yes, I have been to a few parties.....and I HATE parties!! ! I always get ignored and feel very awkward and isolated. I also find parties way too crowded and loud and therefore overwhelming. I haven't been to a non-family party in a very long time.



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25 Apr 2010, 12:08 am

I don't go to those parties where there is drinking and dancing(as in the non family or school functions).

I have gone to family parties, and school and college functions.



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25 Apr 2010, 12:26 am

I went to one. I got kicked out. :?


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25 Apr 2010, 12:27 am

Though I have gone to plenty of raves - but thankfully I'm much more anonymous there.


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