Sometimes when I watch that show "Cheaters"

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harlequinsenor
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01 May 2010, 1:35 am

I think... how could these losers get so attached to a person? I mean, you date them... you may have sex with them... you may even move in with them... I just don't get how people can get attached like that.



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01 May 2010, 2:32 am

I need a guy to have kids with but it has to be the right man for me.



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01 May 2010, 3:40 am

harlequinsenor wrote:
I think... how could these losers get so attached to a person? I mean, you date them... you may have sex with them... you may even move in with them... I just don't get how people can get attached like that.

There's more to it than dating or sex. You fall in love with them. You share things with them, things you wouldn't share with another person. They feel like they really understand you. Your soulmate.
Then you find out they've been doing the same special something with another person. It can really tear a person apart. Not that it's ever happened to me.


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01 May 2010, 8:17 am

You are completely leaving out the emotional component.
If there would be no emotional component, there would be no further procreation because it would be too much effort.
But exactly that emotional component causes things like this.
It turns out it is very easy for people to get attached to other people, if those people manipulate them well.
Which is again, not very difficult, but most people have their conscience to stop them.
Some people either do not have a conscience or do, but do not care.
Maybe for those people there is a certain pleasure in fooling two people, and getting away with it.
Maybe more than two people.
But of course, this is not imaginable if one has not experienced it.
Emotions, being abstract concepts, are not like physical things.
They cannot truly be conveyed in any physical medium.