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In your unofficial non-professional opinion, would you guess I belong here?
Sounds like Asperger's. 45%  45%  [ 5 ]
You sound like an A-hole. 18%  18%  [ 2 ]
You sound like an A-hole with Asperger's 36%  36%  [ 4 ]
Total votes : 11

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12 May 2010, 6:53 pm

I've only been reading about Asperger's for a couple of days, but the more of your posts I read the more I am convinced that it fits.

I have plenty of people I like being around when we are doing things together, but if any of them wanted to talk about something other than what we're doing I would high tail it.

I get when other people are joking, but I keep joking even if it's clear that they think it is time to be serious.

I hate the phone.

Bright lights drive me crazy.
I can't stand when other people chew.
If I never saw anyone I knew again, I think I'd be ok with that.

I need things to go exactly my way.

I obsess over tiny details that others don't even notice.
I remember everything I see on TV. But forget things that are important to other people.

Skin blemishes, hairs, and hang nails drive me crazy to the point that I will dig holes in my skin to get rid of them even though the scab that I know will be left will drive me just as crazy.


Not 100% of the things I've read match up, but it seems like that is the case for quite a few of you. I took all of the online tests and they all agree with me that it is very likely.


I was diagnosed with ADD by the second go round of the 3rd grade, just before every boy in the 3rd grade had it. I took Ritalin through the 10th grade when I was asked not to return to the public school system. I stopped taking the meds and instead just arranged my life to fit around my issues, avoiding places where I was expected to be still and be quiet and pay attention to things that were of no interest to me.

My childhood girlfriend stayed with me even after my mother warned her that I was a giant pain in the ass and would never change.

It took her 8 years to convince me that being married wouldn't be any different from living together. She turned out to be right, except for the name change thing which still drives me nuts if I think about it. She put off switching her last name for a couple years so I could get used to the idea, and once again she was right in saying that I would live through that.

My wife has really wanted a baby as long as I have known her.
I have never seen her fascination, so I fought it as long as I could.
When we both finished College, found good jobs, bought the cars we wanted and the home had everything we always wanted in it, I was happy.

I was also out of reasons why it wasn't the time for a baby.
I have felt like I am going crazy ever since she said she was pregnant.
I had a feeling that she was going to want me to help out with some things that she has always done for us by herself, I wasn't sure I would be able to help out and found everything too overwhelming so I went to see a head shrinker about getting back on Ritalin.

They gave me Adderall but I didn't have to take it For very long to see it wasn't going to fix me.
Now I am 32, the baby is almost a year old and I am sure my wife is going to leave.

How do I know if I have Asperger's or if I am just an A-hole?

Most things about the baby either bug me or creep me out.
My wife who has always been my favorite person, now bugs me. Especially the voice she uses when talking to the baby. I think it's because I know she likes the baby more than me.
I have never said those things aloud and know that nobody should think that way but I can't help it, and I think she knows.

If you have read all of this, and have not been able to move past the fact that I said I 'caught' Asperger's... You might be an Aspie.
And for that I apologize, I was kidding.

Also, do you guys get sensitive about people saying 'Ass Burgers', the way little people do with midget?
I hope not, 'cause I think it sounds funny.

Can I live with one of you when my wife goes?



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12 May 2010, 7:31 pm

Welkommen to WP!

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If you have read all of this, and have not been able to move past the fact that I said I 'caught' Asperger's... You might be an Aspie.
And for that I apologize, I was kidding.
That's hilarious! And true! RRaawrrghh....

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Can I live with one of you when my wife goes?
That is sad that the baby isn't working out. But those things grow, you know. Luckily. If it's old enough, you can try to teach it things, like sign language...

It does sound like AS, because a lot of those same things I experience, and I know I am.
I hope your wife doesn't leave you! Maybe this can help you open discussions between the two of you! I squarely root for both of you.



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12 May 2010, 7:32 pm

Welcome to Wrong Planet!


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12 May 2010, 8:33 pm

I cannot stand chewing (or drinking) noises - and whistling, and ...

The sounds create an instant burst of rage in me.



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12 May 2010, 8:59 pm

Should've added "Might be Aspergers" to your poll. But I went ahead yeah, and marked "Sounds like." Some things.. like the routine change. You have a baby now -- and routine is difficult to break with. I can't know from the description you gave though. It's sort of vague. If you're really suspicious of Aspergers, then you need to seek out an autism specialist for adults... which can sometimes end up being more pain than changing and carrying out all those dirty diapers.

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12 May 2010, 9:00 pm

Sound like a fellow Spectrumite to me. Welcome to WP :-)


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12 May 2010, 9:09 pm

Welcome to WrongPlanet and welcome to my time warp. :)


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12 May 2010, 9:10 pm

Welcome aboard the Wrong Planet, fellow-traveler Tinman.


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12 May 2010, 9:39 pm

Other things.

I don't sleep. Can't turn my brain off when I wish I were sleeping.

I can not be late, even to places that I don't want to go.

I see things that I need so bad that I can't stop thinking about them until I have one. Some of these things I never use.

Earlier this year I drove from LA to Phoenix and back in one day to watch a hockey game, a couple weeks later I happily drove to San Jose and back for another game.
But any time someone wants to eat somewhere further than ten minutes from my house, it seems way too far.

I don't see why anyone would want a greeting card.

I am terrible with money, but I love the history of coins and currency.

I need sets to be complete.

I'd be content if I never had to get off the couch again, so long as someone was paying the cable bill.

When I buy shoes I buy every pair they have in my size so I don't have to go back for years. I have been wearing almost the same Vans since I was a baby. They were 'poor kid' shoes when I was in school and everyone was wearing Nike, but luckily for me they became cool at some point.

I feel more like Dr. House and Dexter than the normal ones on those shows.

People make me uncomfortable when they cry, especially if they are not bleeding.

Last time I remember tearing up was in 1999 when Wayne Gretzky retired, and I don't even know that guy.

If left in the woods like survivor man or marooned castaway style, I think I would live long and happy. If left to live my current life by myself, I think I would wind up on the street inside of two years. I have never opened mail or written a check.

I feel pretty comfortable telling you guys stuff I would never say to a friend or relative.



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12 May 2010, 9:43 pm

um its not something you can catch like a cold


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13 May 2010, 1:25 am

Eggman wrote:
um its not something you can catch like a cold

I beg to differ, I caught it from a cat sneeze
Oh I voted on the third choice, welcome to wrong planet



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13 May 2010, 5:55 am

Hello Tinman, welcome, enjoy your stay on the Wrong Planet!


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13 May 2010, 9:38 am

silentbob15 wrote:
Eggman wrote:
um its not something you can catch like a cold

I beg to differ, I caught it from a cat sneeze
Oh I voted on the third choice, welcome to wrong planet


I like your style.
I also voted for the third choice.



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13 May 2010, 6:42 pm

I don't really give a s**t if you were kidding it is not funny and incredibly offensive to us aspies. And saying that I do not care if you have it or not I think you are an as*hole (you asked us do you think you have it or are you an as*hole and I just responded)



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13 May 2010, 7:56 pm

silentbob15 wrote:
Eggman wrote:
um its not something you can catch like a cold

I beg to differ, I caught it from a cat sneeze
Oh I voted on the third choice, welcome to wrong planet
logic, laws of phisichs, techincalities pwn


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13 May 2010, 9:15 pm

Xenu wrote:
I don't really give a sh** if you were kidding it is not funny and incredibly offensive to us aspies. And saying that I do not care if you have it or not I think you are an as*hole (you asked us do you think you have it or are you an as*hole and I just responded)


I can't speak for the person who posted. If he seriously believes he has Aspergers, he should seek out a professional Autism specialist and diagnosis. If he is not Aspergers (I can not tell), then that doctor can assess for other problems...

I don't think a lot of people realize it, but there is a very real growing epidemic of people claiming they're Asperger Syndrome... because they're just rude. Self-diagnosed jerks, and maybe seen Albert Einstein or Bill Gates with the label, so therefore it seems da mode thing to do.

Here's one further, and I noticed the difference between "A LACK OF EMPATHY," vs. "a mild form of Autism that comes with what seems to be a biological inability to show empathy for other human beings, as well as (and maybe stemming from) an inability to recognize nonverbal cues."

That does not imply "empathy" is non-existent, merely Aspies have difficulty showing the very real and present empathy, that is within themself, fully intact and functional.

But comparing bullying and internet trolls and the like, to Aspergers Syndrome??
:? :?

More myths to further corrupt people's understanding of what Aspergers Syndrome really is.

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"Internet Asperger's Syndrome" and "Austistic economics"
July 6, 2009 @ 9:04 am
Filed by Mark Liberman under Language change
http://languagelog.ldc.upenn.edu/nll/?p=1559

And he says that he's come to "recognize a new disorder, the underlying cause of Harris' Law", Internet Asperger's Syndrome, which "affects people when their communication moves to digital", causing them to "[stop] seeing the humanity in other people", and to behave in other ways that (in his view) parallel the symptoms of Asperger's Syndrome.

The term Internet Asperger's Syndrome was recently picked up by Jonathan Kimak in a humorous piece for Cracked ("6 New Personality Disorders Caused by the Internet", 6/30/2009). Kimak writes (inaccurately) that Asperger's Syndrome is a
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… rarely diagnosed but often claimed disorder is a mild form of Autism that comes with what seems to be a biological inability to show empathy for other human beings, as well as (and maybe stemming from) an inability to recognize nonverbal cues. They continually do weird, upsetting things because they don't know it's upsetting you. That part of their brain is broken.

People cringe when they hear this term because they know that a large number of the teenagers claiming Asperger's are, in fact, merely dicks.
He agrees with Calacanis's diagnosis:
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Calacanis figured out that people who do all of their communicating online wind up mimicking Asperger's behaviors because they are imposing the same disadvantages on themselves. In both cases, when the ability to see nonverbal responses and facial expressions goes away, so does empathy. Soon the thing you're communicating with isn't a person, they're just a bunch of words on a screen. A bunch of words that the little bastard didn't even bother to spellcheck.


Thus Kimak ends up connecting Asperger's Syndrome with various forms of internet-mediated mob cruelty — his characteristic examples are things like "A kid commits suicide on webcam while the trolls cheer him on … Normal kids, … but get them in a chat room and suddenly it reads like the transcript to a Charles Manson parole hearing"

Ironically, it takes a certain lack of empathy to see Charles Manson's sociopathic crimes as having any similarity at all with the social awkwardness and focused, "systematizing" interests of Asperger's people. And spontaneous adolescent mob cruelty, internet-mediated or not, strikes me as having little to do with either one.

In this case, Calacanis and Kimak make the the connection between chat-room meanness and Asperger's because of the idea that the lack of non-verbal cues leads to the depersonalization of victims. But the kind of mobbing gossip that they describe — as familiar from school cafeterias as from web forums — is way outside the spectrum of Asperger's behaviors, from everything I've seen and read. And charismatic sociopaths like Manson are especially skilled in exactly the sorts of communicative manipulation that Aspies have problems with.

Read the entire article : http://languagelog.ldc.upenn.edu/nll/?p=1559


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