Do you ever feel like you're trapped inside yourself??
Yes, all my life. Only times I have felt 'me' is when painting, hiking, and running.
I think it has to be solitary activities; or just one or two other people in the case of hiking.
When I was very young - maybe four or five I remember thinking that I would not be free until I was dead, and I knew, even then, it was a weird sensation. Like I was away from home though standing in the backyard, next to flowers and trees and grass.
I've gotten no closer to 'home', nor figured out ho to get 'me' out of hiding, over the intervening years. Maybe she doesn't feel safe. Not sure.
I've just thought of something. Are we somehow reaching past the wall (that's what I call it) when we discuss this?
I know exactly how you feel. I've felt it all my life! I don't know why, but I could never really figure out how to put it into words. Your title describes it so simply, I feel kinda stupid for not being able to put these feelings into words.
When I see people interacting with each other, I keep asking myself "Why the hell can't I be that way?" When my friends are joking around and teasing each other and just having fun interacting with each other, I feel bad because I want to be able to do that too, but that part of me is trapped inside because I just don't inherently know how to do it.
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I feel trapped, like I'm suffocating, like I'm running into an invisible wall and can't get around it. I want to do things and feel like I can't accomplish things because I start to sufficate and shut down. the only thing that brings a sense of calm is the ocean. I went to school off and on for years and never finished because I would become overwhelmed. I have bad impulse spending and it gives me a sense if high then I crash and go I to stress from being broke. I live in a vicious cycle. I'm tired.
Yes! Finally someone who explains how I feel. I am trapped inside myself and I can't show who I am, I cannot put into words everything that's in my mind and everything I understand. There's an invisible bubble that keeps me from fully participating with the rest of the world, but I am here, inside me. I've tried explaining this to others but they don't seem to understand.
My therapist asked me what I meant by trapped, it is hard to explain but that's the only explanation I can give. Like there is a plastic bag over the inner me. Social media drives me insane sometime but I look at it for mindless thinking. I always live in my head with scenes from a movie going on but I am the star of the movie and it is usually negative. My therapist stated that it is always negative because of the ptsd. If I could zap my brain and change the negative. Sometimes I am outgoing but that is just me being a little manic and then boom I crash.
I didn't trapped myself. More like I was 'born' trapped inside myself to begin with.
What I mean inside myself, I meant my true self is trapped in my human self.
I don't have much of a social mask to speak of, I barely play the roles assigned to me. The social world and it's "evils" are the least of my worries, nor I 'want' the social world be open to me just because I want or need it no matter whose 'fault' it was.
To me the "world's doors" are crazy -- it doesn't just opens and closes itself. Sometimes I'm a VIP with cheers and all that and may or may not know it, sometimes I'm banned from the party and unknowingly entered it, sometimes it's locked even if I have the invitation, sometimes the door doesn't even exists no matter how many directions I followed, sometimes I stumbled upon it and entirely controlled the whole room, sometimes there's a door I want to get through yet I couldn't so instead I went through a window or have someone else enter it for me. And so on, there are too many scenarios.
It's my mind and will being trapped in my body and it's inherited or conditioned disposition.
My expressions are limited by human language, cultural cues and contexts. And I long suspected in some ways everyone else is the same.
My movement is hindered by my own physical limitations. And I'm far from clumsy or weak let alone handicapped or crippled.
My thoughts and actions are filtered by my brain and biochemistry. One tiny speck of a change, even if it's an ideal one, then countless variables changes.
My understanding of things is muddled by some or most of my past experience and current state as a human.
My core is multifaceted but consistent. My body is just very fickle and sensitive, that I'm known to be very moody and self contradictory because some change happened -- be it ideal or unhealthy.
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I felt that I was trapped inside myself starting in the November that I was 6 until I came out to my parents leaving a very honest message on their answering machine in the June of 2016 about some secrets that I was keeping from them all those years. I called it the trapped German soldier feeling.
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earlier posts here mentioned the "aspie glass wall" only in my case the glass is blotchy and opaque in large part, and in the clearer parts has much of the "fun house mirror" optics that confuse my comprehension of external reality with a distorted reflection off of meself, and what does pass through also is distorted.
i feel i am very safe inside my temple of my soul.
i trust myself implicitly, and i am glad to never go out anywhere else.
i do not need to.
i am a recluse in my own mortal coil, and i want to live forever in me.
alas i can not, and then i will sleep forever never knowing the vicious winds of external disdain.
I feel this on a daily basis and it can be extraordinairily frustrating. It feels like many things need to be in place before my own personality will become unlocked. And like a key being pushed inside of a lock, every single tumbler needs to be in a certain position before I myself can be unlocked and my personality can show.
My personal "tumbler keys" are represented by the light needs to be a certain way in, certain sounds need to be heard, certain clothing needs to be worn, a certain emotional state needs to be experienced, etc. etc. All of these things need to be in place in order for me to be content enough for my own personality to show itself.
If none of these are in place then I simply clam up and suffer in silence. Does this make sense?
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I remember feeling like this when I was younger, as if I were wearing an invisible veil and unable to take it off. The feeling diminished somewhat in my early-to-mid twenties, when I finally managed to make some long-lasting close friendships. The feeling then diminished more in my early thirties due to some personal experiences with alternative spiritualities.
These days, fortunately, I live with an Aspie boyfriend, with whom I feel free to be fully myself, and we live in a highly multi-cultural neighborhood with immigrants from many different countries around the world, so there's no narrow set of cultural norms we have to stuff ourselves into here. (We're not friends with anyone in our immediate neighborhood, but we're not outcasts either.) This situation helps both of us feel much more at ease and more alive than we could otherwise.
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