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autisticon
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11 Apr 2006, 9:24 am

So having a girlfriend for the first time has been posing a few problems for me, mainly having to do with not knowing what is expected, or what is too much/too little in these situations.

The first obsticle was valentines day, where I chose to act like it didnt happen. Somehow I managed to get away with that and not get dumped. But now her birthday is quickly approaching and I'm stumped on what to do.

I wouldnt have a clue on what to get her as a gift... I cant even figure that out for my own mom or sisters. So right now I'm thinking either taking her out for dinner or making her dinner... plus maybe some flowers? I guess I should probably get her a card too - guys could really care less about a card but from what I gather girls are quite the opposite.



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11 Apr 2006, 9:34 am

Yeah, I think taking her out to eat is probably your best option. As for the card and flowers, nice ideas too - I've had friends who even sat there with construction paper and did it 1st grade style, just make sure that the card is nothing *too* flowery.


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11 Apr 2006, 10:07 am

I think dinner is usually a pretty good idea. As for the other stuff - unless you have noticed something specific about her - safe things are flowers, jewelry, cute little stuffed animal. Regardless if she likes them or not she won't think you are weird if you get those things for her.



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11 Apr 2006, 10:36 am

She doesnt seem to be much of a jewelry person.... besides I think its a bit too early in the relationship for that kinda stuff.



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11 Apr 2006, 1:33 pm

autisticon wrote:
She doesnt seem to be much of a jewelry person.... besides I think its a bit too early in the relationship for that kinda stuff.


Jewelry is a tricky one - defintely can send the wrong signals if you jump ahead on that one. Personally I don't wear any jewelry because I find it irritating (even my wedding ring). So that has caused some contention in the past with my husband (NT) who doesn't understand that. It took him a few YEARS to realize that when I said I didn't want jewelry but very practical gifts I really meant it. If she doesn't seem like a jewelry person than I would avoid it definetely.



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11 Apr 2006, 3:32 pm

Well I've been racking my brain on this all day... and even did some browsing the net for ideas. I've decided instead of taking her out for dinner I am going to make her dinner and then watching a movie. I think she'll really appreciate this because she's a vegan (and I'm quite the opposite). I'm quite the cook, but I cant say I've ever made a meal that didnt involve meat. So I've been scouring the net for some sort of recipe that both of us would enjoy - and I might have to do a trial run tonight to see how it turns out.

I also read an idea that I really liked, make a CD with the #1 hit on her birthday from each year since she was born. I've already done the research and found out all of the songs. Doesnt look like her typical music but I think it's a really cool idea.

Other than that... some flowers for the center of the table, which I can send her home with at the end of the night.

Ugh... after 20+ years of being single, I'm starting to think I was better off that way - it's much easier! I'm already fearing Xmas (not just the gift buying, but also introducing her to the family).