Wanna ask a girl to the movies, but can't do it

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UPDATE

So I asked her. Backpedaling a bit, I got invited today to an office party, where I freelance, and she works fulltime. I chatted with her off and on, and we talked movies a bit, including the one I hoped to ask her to see. She hadn't seen it.

Fast forward to when I'm leaving. I catch her on the way out, while we're alone, and straight up ask, "So, would you be interested in seeing [movie A] sometime?" I think I said it in a way, in a place (just the two of us), straight up, that would convey it was a date, albeit rather casual and friendly.

She smiled pretty brightly and said, "You know, I think I need to see that movie sometime."

To which I said, "Great! How about I call you?"

She replied "Sure!" or "Okay!" or some such.

I've misread situations so much, I frankly don't trust myself. Analyzing the conversation, I see she didn't say, "I'd love to," or anything absolute, but "shed like to see it sometime." Likewise, when I offered to call, she didn't say, "Please do," or "I'd like that," but gave a more open ended answer, as though, I can call, but it doesn't guarantee anything?

I was concerned she was dating someone, but I feel pretty sure that isn't happening, because I can't believe how she could be seeing someone else in earnest, and yet seem so open to my proposal.

But what do you all make of this? Is she being polite, or is she genuinely interested?

BR

Congratulations!! You did it!!

Sounds to me the most important exchange was the bright smile, and the emphatic reply when you offered to call.

The exchange sounds genuine, and instead of worrying about "what if's," it's more important to think about what you're going to say during your phone call.

Keep it short. Call soon and don't play games -- unless you're looking for that type of relationship.

So I called her. She didn't pick up, so I left a message. She sent me a text a day later, saying she couldn't go to the movies, since she was hanging with her girlfriends, and thanked me for the invite. End of story. So it's pretty much a brush off, albeit polite. It's what I figured, she was just being polite to me earlier, and didn't figure I'd follow up.

I knew this would happen. And in any case, she's a pretty cool girl, and much more sophisticated than me. She could do better, and deserves better, and probably knows it.

s**t though, it still stinks. It's bad enough wondering if you'll ever find someone to spend your life with. I find myself wondering if I'll ever find someone who'll even give me a chance, a trial run? Always on deck, but never get to the batter's box. I'd give anything to have a failed relationship. It'd mean I was at least capable of having one. As is, I doubt I'm good enough for anybody.

Thank god for my work. Keeps me going, and helps to numb this loneliness.

Thanks all for your advice. Just wish I had something better to report after all the effort.

BR

Awesome! You see you can do it! Don't worry about the rejection. It will for sure happen a few more times until you meet the right person for you. Rejection is pretty much the ONLY sure thing in this world. Think of it this way: now you know where she stands and you can move on and not dwell on her anymore.

Yeah she handled it politely. It tells me she's a nice person. Her body language was probably telling you NO as her voice was telling you YES. You probably didn't catch this today, but someday you will learn to.