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Gareth
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29 Jun 2010, 5:29 pm

Sparrowrose wrote:
Hello, Doreen!

I'm a 43-year-old woman and was diagnosed in 2001. It's a lot to deal with and you described one of my early feelings after diagnosis. I was upset to learn that I have something that can't be fixed with a pill or therapy. I'd been going to one therapist or another since my parents first started taking me at age five and I guess underneath it all, I was still hoping that someday it would all get figured out and I could be "normal." Learning that I have AS was a kick in the gut because I realized I had to give up on that dream because I was stuck this way forever.

I have a more positive attitude toward it now after processing it for nine years but I still have plenty of days when I feel bitter and like the life I should have had was stolen from me. Dealing with my diagnosis is still an ongoing thing for me.

On the bright side, you are fortunate that you've been able to find a work niche that works for you! Even though it can obviously get very frustrating at work, be glad that you have that. The NAS (National Autistic Society - a British organization) did a study recently and found that only 14% of people with asperger's or high-functioning autism had full-time employment. So be very proud of what you've done in finding a good job and holding on to it all these years! That's a great accomplishment! (I've never been able to keep a job so far and have spent a lot of time homeless because of it. I'm hoping that it will all turn around for me in a few years when I finish my doctorate.)

Welcome to Wrong Planet and welcome to your journey toward knowing more about who you are and why you are like you are.

Oh, yeah, digestive problems. Consider going gluten-free. I had all kind of digestive awful that all went away when I cut out gluten. A lot of us on the spectrum are very sensitive to it.


Hello Doreen. I've just found out about my AS and I feel the same way you do. Gutted there's no cure. I've never held onto a job for long either. I've got a MSc Diploma and I'm in a call centre! Does that suck or what? But it's nice to know I'm never going to be alone again, now that I've met you guys on here. And feel free to call me friend on Facebook if you want to. I'm Gareth Dowson [the good looking one! ha ha]



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29 Jun 2010, 5:33 pm

Sowlowsolo wrote:
Hi Doreen
Welcome. I've not been here long and only suspect that I have AS. I can relate strongly to your story.
I am 45. I have never married but I have had 2 relationships. One lasted on and off for about 6 years (I have a wonderful 20 yr old son from this relationship)
The next relationship happened 12 years later and lasted 4 1/2 years but again was very much on and off. Infact this relationship is only recently over and it still hurts at this moment in time :cry:

I hope we can be friends to the best of our ability (or disability as the case may be)

Regards Solo x


I hope we can ALL be friends! I'm glad I've found wrongplanet.net. Felt very lonely until I came here x



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29 Jun 2010, 6:10 pm

Gareth wrote:
And feel free to call me friend on Facebook if you want to. I'm Gareth Dowson [the good looking one! ha ha]


Oh, my goodness, there are five Gareth Dowsons on Facebook and they all are good looking! Feel free to friend me. Look for Sparrow Jones and then pick the one with the same icon as I use in the forums here. Remind me that you're from Wrong Planet when you send the friend message because I can be scatter-brained sometimes.


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30 Jun 2010, 4:11 pm

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14 Mar 2012, 9:55 pm

I know this topic is now nearly 2 years old but I thought I would add my thoughts to my diagnosis of AS. I came to know about the condition in late 2009 and was officially diagnosed in April 2010. I am now 30 years old and was diagnosed when I was 28.
Like Doreen I feel exactly like she does I have no friends or family close my family live 3 hours away and I moved away before I was diagnosed. I have made no close friends where I live and have lived away from my family for nearly 5 years. I am coping I guess.
Relationships are too complex for me and I have only been in 2 relationships my entire life. I have come to accept I may never have a partner and will never get married or have children. I can accept that though. The friendship thing though confuses me I really have no idea on how to make close friends. People just do not want to be around me.
Having the condition I am always interested in finding out more about AS and Autism. I go to a couple of AS support groups to make an attempt to socialise. Some people are easier to get on with others of course.
So far with employment I have had trouble in just about every job I have had and have faced disciplinary action in two of them. I just cannot find a fit in this world anywhere but I am plodding through life.
So Doreen welcome to WrongPlanet I hope you feel welcome here :-)



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14 Mar 2012, 10:22 pm

Greetings, I am new too!

I hope this site is a great support to you in managing stress etc.



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15 Mar 2012, 2:14 am

Welcome to WP!

Uhm if it helps, i always try to see it this way, you're forced to live and die so you might as well try to make the best of it, and you came to WP so i think thats a good step right :o Maybe i'm just a huge dork for believing that but oh well xD