Sensitivity?
Not like in the way you're sensitive to light, sound, etc. but is it a common Aspie trait to get like overly sensitive to certain things people say to you that aren't meant to be insulting, mean, etc.? Example of what I'm trying to say: I've noticed if someone like yells at me in frustration over something stupid (changing a channel on TV or something), I take it a bit too personally and get really quiet, sad, mad, etc. when it happens (with SMALL things). Is that common among people with Aspergers or is that merely just an individual personality trait that I have? Is anyone else like this? :/
(First post on here in a long time, good to be back btw. )
I'm that way....overly sensative. Then comes the feeling I've done something wrong that translates to guilt. When I finally approach the person I've supposedly offended, they can't even remember the original situation.
People kept telling me to get a thicker skin, so I went to a comic book store and bought "The Fantastic Four" so I would have a role model.....whatever orange man that is.
Your not alone. I don't know if it is specific to Asperger's, but I certainly do it.
I'm an extremely sensitive person, and my face shows it. I take things to heart, but at the same time, I can't help it, because I'm so sensitive. Just this past Sunday, I almost didn't talk to my mum, for an entire day, until it was time for her to make supper, than I've mentioned something about the metal gate on the porch. And than I said, "You swore at me." She said, "It wasn't that bad." Than I said it to her, a second time. I apologize to the Lord, for my own peace of mind, before I type this, because it's something that I don't feel should be censored, but for the record, this is what she said, in her own words to me, when the gate slammed shut, when I was holding my jeans up.
"Jesus f*****g Christ, Shelby!"
You don't say something like that, to someone, who comes close to the innocent, unworldly Mick Avory. I'm sorry. My mum will have to be a lot more careful, next time.
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Yes, yes. I am as well. I love it when people compliment me. I feel sort of like I'm seeking attention too much. Like I've recently lost a lot of weight and whenever people who I haven't seen in years see me, they're always telling me how amazing I look, how much healthier I look, etc. and it always gets me super happy. I feel guilty afterwards, like I'm somehow bothering people by mentioning it like without anyone asking me directly about it, or whatever, like as if me mentioning it is going to somehow bar the compliments and people are no longer gonna compliment me anymore after it. It's hard to describe... but I just LOVE getting complimented so much that I sometimes go overboard with it and feel like I'm getting to the point of annoyance.
I agree, it bugs me how sensitive I am to such small, insignificant things. I remember a few weeks ago when I got frustrated with someone (we were talking on Skype) who is a good friend of mine that I really like talking to. He's really nice to me all the time, and I got mad at him because his microphone was making a really high pitched annoying sound and after I asked him to fix it countless times, I sort of yelled and got frustrated at it enough to the point we just ended the call and he went to bed. I felt like total s**t for the next few hours severely for doing it, and even a few days after kept thinking "why did I get so mad? why did I dod this and that? what if he never talks to me again?" etc., even though he had forgiven me and told me multiple times that he wasn't mad at me and that it was okay. :/
"Jesus f***ing Christ, Shelby!"
You don't say something like that, to someone, who comes close to the innocent, unworldly Mick Avory. I'm sorry. My mum will have to be a lot more careful, next time.
The feeling sucks. It's almost like having the mental capacity of like a younger child mentally as far as criticism goes when something doesn't go your way, or you get yelled at for doing something wrong. I'm the same way, in that I hate loud noises and people yelling at me/frustrated at me/ashamed at me for something, even if it's something like a car door slamming, a TV channel changing, having a different opinion from someone etc. Thankfully it doesn't happen often, but it happened to me big time today when I was watching the news. They kept repeating the same news, and jokingly I said "old news" to which my step mom replied, in frustration, "SO CHANGE THE F-ING CHANNEL!!" And I didn't talk to her at all after that, and just got really quiet and depressed because of it. Even now, I'm still feeling like she's gonna be mad at me or whatever tomorrow, even though I know being a small, insignificant event that she isn't gonna care one bit about it past today, even though I still will. :/
No, mostly people would have to tell me exactly how they feel before I knew, and they don't often do that. But I do have an eye for people who are being left out of a group, and I tend to feel compelled to do things to make sure they feel more included, so I'll probably show a bit of interest in them and try to show them that the world isn't quite as cold and heartless as they'd thought. I think it comes from my own experiences of being left out when I was younger, I feel it very strongly when anybody else is feeling rejected.
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