Is a gf the answer to my problems?

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So I've always had issues and problems in my life. The problem is that I'm a person who doesn't like to open up, not even to my parents. The only "person" I would talk about my problems to is God.

Then yesterday or something, I suddenly had this thought in my mind. Maybe I need a soulmate (of course a trusted one) so the two of us could have conversations about our issues. Of course that won't be all we would talk about. It is interesting because I never thought of that before in my life. I always pictured people getting bfs/gfs just to hug and kiss each other and get intimate and talk about complicated stuff. So is this one of the reasons why people get a bf/gf?

Just a thought I had.

Absolutely...

When I was younger I didn't understand what was the big deal with relationships and I saw them as pointless because they all end. Then I met the girl who is my GF now, and it did change a bit, I now have someone to talk to about my life and since meeting her (since she has Aspergers) I have begun to understand myself more, didn't know about Asperger;s before her, I always just thought I was weird or an alien. All in all though it makes it easier since she has Asperger's because I can relate what has happened and she understands how stressful something is.

All I have to say is what you want is something most people never find in their lifetimes. I'd say pray - daily, diligently, it may take years. The game of numbers won't bring anything like that around.

Hmm...but then there is no reason why I would be comfortable with opening up to a gf if I can't do it with other people.

It doesn't solve anything. Women take smelly sh*ts like anyone else. They aren't goddesses or cure-alls. Movies misrepresent what women and relationships are really like. Just get an escort...she'll demistify sex for you and listen to all of your problems and pretend to care.

Adam82 thanks for the comment, and I'm certain you will find someone who makes all the stuff you've done in your life make total sense.

A girlfriend will not magically solve your problems, but having a companion can make your life better so your problems might not be so daunting. That's what I've found.

As for the problem of not being able to share your deep thoughts, personal stuff, etc. A loving girlfriend is a great person to talk to about these things.

Of course, a relationship brings its own problems, but if you two really honestly care for each other, they can be quite easily dealt with when they arise.

I say definitely go for it; find someone to share your life with. techstepgeneration is absolutely right, though, a true companion isn't someone you're likely to find right off the bat. Perhaps you can play the dating game a little bit to help your confidence. If you don't find the right person in that process, don't give up. In many cases, including my own, the perfect girl just happens into your life without you looking for her. If you're like many of us who don't get out much, forcing yourself to broaden your horizons a bit at a time will increase your chances of this happening.

You mentioned confiding your problems in God. I'm not a religious person myself, but I've heard from others that church functions where young people gather are potential meeting places.

Me not having a gf till this age is just the consequence of my issues( social ineptness, being overparented, no friends,lifestyle...etc) and not the cause of those issues. I am not sure about you but you have to consider this possibility.

It's wonderful to have someone to talk to who gets you.

It's never a cure all, though. Some of your problems might go away, but then there's always new ones.

once i was in a dilemma at the table at the tavern while waiting for my meal to be cooked.

i had a problem. there was a clue that i needed to solve in the cryptic crossword puzzle.

it was 13 down. the clue was "gee! in real life, the negative is in what the chips are saying for his S.O"

when i got "girlfriend", my problem was solved.