Aspie Male and Relationship Issues

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And the results are in:

Men have it harder = 82% [ 14 votes ]
No it isn't harder for Aspie Men = 17% [ 3 votes ]

...and that ladies and gentlemen means that 14 guys and 3 girls has read this thread.


One could go on and speculate about the meaning of "have it harder" in which case Aspie men would become immensely popular among NT women...

need more diagnosed women

If the question was : "is it harder for women to be a parent?" or "is it harder for women to live in Saudi Arabia?" , then I would certainly answer "Yes" due to the overwhelming evidences rubbing on my face that indicate that, like the evidences that show how is harder to be a mother more than a father (for the first question) and how is harder for a woman to be in KSA.

The fact that there are much more 'Aspie' women in relationships here than the 'Aspie' men is a strong evidence (which is rubbing on your faces!) that having a relationship is harder for aspie men.

There was a thread created by an old once-active female member (anyone recalls anna-banana?) in the women's section , the thread was titled like "Why most of you female members are married so young?" , not sure o the exact words. My points is , that even few female single members have noticed this (that most female aspies are in relationships) , and those few single female member ,like the single men, always wondered why most females here have bfs/husbands ,it's really a phenomena.

The 'Men have it harder' is the logical general (hence doesn't apply to all individuals) conclusion , not a sexist fallacy.

I always give 'me and my coworker' as an example.

One of my coworker is one of the most socially inept/introvert person I ever met , she even has some kind of people phobia, like she cries sometimes when she's in a crowded place or if she's somewhere with too many strangers. She sometimes sound too unfriendly and too distant.

Her self-esteem and confidence are less than zero.

She's undereducated (not idiot tho) compared to others here : zero in English , 1 over 10 in French I would say and computer challenged. She's an extremely village girl (was once extremist muslim) , she was very closed minded and the city life was so alien to her.
She doesn't drive , doesn't club, doesn't swim , doesn't do any outdoor activities.

Yet , despite all that , she had tons of bfs (most of them from the city) - just because she's a bit pretty . Her last bf is a Christian strongly-agnostic from the capital city and she got him just after FEW months of her break up with her ex , and there were other guys who wanted her too.

I have a lot in common with this girl (when it comes to lifestyle or personality traits, not mentality) but ,unlike her I had no partner in life (gfs, I mean). When a female human is less than a social beta = not a big deal = doesn't affect mating chances much , but that's not the case with the males.



Forget about me, just imagine a reverse scenario, a guy with the exact same traits of that girl , how many gfs from the city he will get?