sacrip wrote:
Ah, yes, the V thing. Until it's gone, it's a persistent monkey on your back. Trust me, I know. Sex, in that case, it not just sex anymore. It's validation of self worth. At least it was for me. After all, if a girl likes you enough to let you do THAT to her, well, you can't be all that bad, can you?
Exactly the way I felt as well.
sacrip wrote:
Once you have it, I think your obsession will diminish significantly. Once sex is no longer a mystery, it becomes more of a simple fact of life.
Disagreeing with you here -- yeah, the pressure is off to break your cherry, but now that you've had a taste, you might want it even more, or have even more ego and self-worth wrapped in it. Never have I felt worse than the down period between my first GF and my second -- it was a very long period, and one where I really agonized over why I couldn't seem to land another GF to save my life. I realize now I just was overlooking the leads that were coming in, staying too shy, and vibing too much desperation.