Any parents who are Aspies?

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Thanks for the support on the birthday party episode. My experience is that dealing with other parents who are NTs is like being in the twilight zone!

Speaking of birthday parties... What do you do when a child wants a birthday party (and asks pretty consistently for it)? I feel bad, because it is a nightmare for me to plan and coordinate and be at the party with all of the chaos, but more than anything she wants one. She would gladly give up all the presents just for a chance to socialize with a group of friends outside of school.

Do you have someone who can do it for you? This is where grannies and aunts can be very helpful.

I am an AS mum with an AS son and possibly another as he is showing strong traits. And reading these posts has been like reading about my children and I. I have 5 kids and I am always being told how polite and fair my children. How patient they are with others at school and how independent they are, I am often told it must be because we are a 'large' family. But like I have read here they become quite concerned when the game is not fair or when who they are as a person is not respected. They will even go so far as to point out any disrespect they feel they have suffered. All things must be fair and equal. I am not sure if that is me or just the fact that we are a big family but I hope some of it is me. It has been an easy road to love my kids I can be affectionate with them, but at times that part can be hard for me as I have a few funny little things I dont like ...being breathed on...so I kinda hold my breath when they come up to kiss my cheek. Because I have such an interest in children I think that has helped me to care for them and mother them the best way I think they should be. I also think my constant routines help them too We tend to run a bit like an army camp!
Being up at the school is the hardest part I dont like small talk and find it really hard, but for the kids I do what I have to. As for parties I hate them but still I do have them I prepare myself for it all pretend to be like everyone else and when it is over am so thankful it is over. Hate asking for help probably because I can be a control freak so I tend to do it on my own with my husband for back up.
There are days I can go up to school do all the schoolie stuff no problems then there are other days I would rather be somewhere..anywhere but there with all those other mothers.

Anandamide, I wish my mother had been like you when I was a kid, and I hope I did half as well with my own child. People can be very unfair and I don't think they realize that kids remember.

Well I am not a perfect mom by any standard. But my children do know that when they have a problem with some adult or child that is causing them to feel very troubled then I will do something to intervene and try to resolve the problem.

One solution that I came up for bullies in the playground is a little tactic that has worked well. When my children report that someone has been repeatedly bullying them or other children then I tell my children they are not allowed to play with that person. it has to be a case of repeated bullying, and then I instruct my kids to say, "My mom says I'm not allowed to play with you." MY kids actually like this when I give them this rule. This has worked well in the past. I only do this when a child is behaving really badly, for example when one girl was telling the others not to play with my child or another child. I told my daughter, "You're not allowed to play with that girl because she is being a bully." I emphasize that I only make this rule when it is a real clear case of bullying. I have gone so far as to go out to the playground and if I see that my children are breaking the "You can't play with the bully" rule I will then call my children to me and tell them off for breaking the rule. It takes the pressure off my child from having to deal with the bully. Also, the bully runs home and tells his or her parents that there is a child who is not allowed to play with him or her. This has the great effect of making the bully's parents feel bad because those parents know that now there are other parents who disapprove of their child. No parent likes to hear that some other parent has made such a rule about their child based on that child's bad behavior. So far it has worked very well.

I can deal with NT parents and teachers, although it is uncomfortable for me. I may be an aspie social geek, but I'm not stupid.

I am an Aspie parent of three school-age boys. I am a stressed-out parent, especially since the two youngest are rather active., and when they don't listen to me.

Hi I am an aspie single mom to 5 boys. One of whom is diagnosed aspie and a couple of others who seem to have shadow symptoms.

Feeling rather overwhelmed much of the time lately. So not sure what else to say just that there are others.

Hi I am an aspie single mom to 5 boys. One of whom is diagnosed aspie and a couple of others who seem to have shadow symptoms.

Feeling rather overwhelmed much of the time lately. So not sure what else to say just that there are others.