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12 Sep 2010, 9:34 am

Ladies, listen to this, tell me your feelings on this small thing:
My husband of almost 20 years likes checkin' out the chicks jus like any other red-blooded male but why do the women have to gloat or act like their total value as a person depends on some strange man just glancing at them in a parking lot? Every man on this earth will look casually or even lustfully at a woman but why do women put SO much value on it. I asked my brother this same question and his response was this: I look at strange women lustfully only.
I have no interest other than self satisfaction in the most physical sense. If a woman is putting her total self worth on the fact that I look at her with my tongue out or feels she must gloat because I feel like mounting her, then she must be an idiot or completely crazy. My sister feels that women gloat to devalue the lustful thought of the guy doing the looking...to make it
far more than it actually is. I feel each and every one of us has far more value than what is resulting from some sort of "peckerometer". Why should the quality of a strange man's tumenescence rate us? Are we all just a bunch of whores?



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12 Sep 2010, 9:55 am

Um... I think you might be reading into things a little bit. Guys look at girls as much as girls look at guys- they just not as subtle about it.



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12 Sep 2010, 9:59 am

Lene makes a good point. I look at guys with lust all the time but secretly. I may not make loud cat calls or yell rudely out the window or honk but I also do the same thing. I just get annoyed by the behavior not the lust itself. If a guy was staring at me or complimented me, I'd feel more flattered than offended.


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13 Sep 2010, 10:05 pm

I've never heard women gloat about this. The only time I've heard women mention some strange guy staring at them was in a disgusted sense. I suppose these were blatant, full on stares that could be chalked up to "gawking".



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14 Sep 2010, 7:35 pm

Yeah, the only way I could imagine young girls gloating about being stared at is if your husband is, like, a super hunk with a hot bod (and in which case you might want to watch out and be less tolerant of some of his behaviors). Otherwise, I would guess that you're just seeing things that aren't there.



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15 Sep 2010, 12:28 am

I don't really have this problem really. My fiancé keeps his eyeballs in his head where they belong. He's more critical than complimentary of women, and when he does see a woman that is pretty, he'll openly remark so at me. But it's about respect, a man shouldn't be gawking at other women when he's walking with his wife or fiance. I don't gawk at men either way, but I certainly wouldn't do that in front of him. The only sign that sends out, in my opinion, is 'The woman I'm standing with isn't as good looking as you are, stranger, that's why I'm gawking at you right now.' When a guy looks at me when he's with another girl, I get the immediate impression that he's getting something on the side or wants something on the side, otherwise he wouldn't be staring at me like he wants a piece. But my fiance and I don't even have qualms about porn. He reads erotica and prefers imagination to reality in that sense. He'd be more likely to be interested in comic book women than real women that aren't me, which I'm thankful for. So there are exceptions to the rule. It could be that he'll be 27 this year and his hormones have calmed down, because he used to be a cheater and manwhore, but I think he vented all of that in a few short years (along with drugs and partying) to where he was just in the settling down mood when we got together. He was the one that wanted to start a family, too. He always tells me he feels too old to go out and about like that anymore. I still try to keep him interested, though. We do kinky stuff and I'm bisexual, myself, so we have done stuff involving other girls (me and them, not him and them, but he's a-okay with that). That being said, I look at a lot more women than he does. LOL