Do you want your kids to be autistic?

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Do you want your kids to be autistic?
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Kai_Bliss
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30 Sep 2010, 9:44 pm

I would like my kids to be autistic, so I have someone to relate to, not to mention my own kids. :D

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Would you also be willing to go through the challenges of raising a child with AS?

And sorry for the small number of options.

I am sorry if I had mistakenly offended anyone.



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30 Sep 2010, 10:08 pm

You need more options-- "would be fine with either," "will not have kids" and "other."


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30 Sep 2010, 10:10 pm

That's really dumb.

For the sake of humanity, please don't ever have kids.



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30 Sep 2010, 11:05 pm

Yes, "don't care" needs to be an option. I'm guessing the majority of us will take our kids the way they are whichever way they turn out. Plus an option for "I don't want kids."

I don't see what's dumb about wanting kids who are like you. It may be controversial when "like you" involves a disability, but it's not outrageous, especially in a world where disabled people are being ostracized less and less, and getting more and more opportunities. I think the next generation of disabled people will be about as well off, in terms of minority status, as blacks were in the 1970s; and their kids will be as well off as blacks are today. Disability certainly doesn't stop you from being happy.

I personally am not going to have children myself, but if I become a foster parent like I plan to when I am more mature and financially stable, I will accept autistic children and may even request kids with special needs specifically. Why not? I have disabled friends; I have a disability myself. I already have the advantage of not being freaked out by disability. I should be able to learn to do whatever it is they need from a (temporary) parent. Not that it would be easy, but I know enough about parenting to know that it isn't supposed to be easy to begin with.


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30 Sep 2010, 11:14 pm

That's a tough one to answer. But I already have two sons---one is diagnosed with AS like me. I was happy with this because we have something special in common. But he was 8 when he was diagnosed, so I just thought he was eccentric in some ways prior to the diagnosis.

I guess what I am saying is that my wish would be that a child be born in the way that that child will be happy in life.

Callista---I enjoyed your response. That makes a lot of sense---very good answer in my opinion.


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30 Sep 2010, 11:16 pm

Yes I would. I'd love to be able to relate to my own children.


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30 Sep 2010, 11:49 pm

I am never having kids. I don't want them, I'm asexual and no longer able to reproduce and am happy that way. I could never cope with any child regardless of if they were normal or autistic.


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30 Sep 2010, 11:52 pm

Yes, I would like my children to be autistic.
The only problem would be to watch them struggle with social challenges. I wouldn't want them to go through the bullying I went through. However, if I homeschooled, perhaps they wouldn't ever learn about socializing in the NT world.



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30 Sep 2010, 11:56 pm

I would never bring another human into this world even if I could afford to give them the best quality of life possible. I can't imagine there's too many humans who have less of a desire to have children than I do. I don't even comprehend the desire to procreate, it's utterly alien to me. As Valerie Solanas once said (in the bio-pic of her life anyway), "why should we care if a future generation succeeds us anyway?"

I've personally experienced how hellish neurological disorders can be. Furthermore, i've seen the hell many others with physical/mental disabilities go through and it's NOT just because of the way society often treats people with disabilities. Many people with disabilities (probably including myself) would still go through hell even in a utopian society in which we were treated like gold.

I realize that not everyone with disabilities is unhappy and goes through hell. Still...considering the QUALITY of hell and unhappiness that i've dealt with entirely because of my neurological disorder, I would not want to bring another person into this world if there's even an extremely remote chance they may go through similar struggles.

Thus...even if I had any desire for children, I would not want one with autism or any other mental/physical disorder. Sorry...but the people who seem to have lived the most fulfilling lives on this earth are NT's with no other significant physical/mental disorders.

Sure countless people in that category go through hell and are unhappy too, but how many people who lived like Jacque Cousteu have significant mental and/or physical challenges?



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01 Oct 2010, 12:28 am

I'd take them as is, but would prefer they be born in a way in which they will not end up being bullied or denied life opportunities. I would want them to be happy and enjoy life and feel loved and wanted.


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01 Oct 2010, 12:51 am

I wanted to see the results, so I answered yes, because I'd be more likely to be able to be a good parent to them then.


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01 Oct 2010, 1:01 am

Yes, I hate the idea of having kids who can't understand my personality. Though I really hope I never have kids.


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01 Oct 2010, 1:05 am

I don't want to have kids. If I did, I wouldn't want them to have a disability, but I would, however, want to be able to relate to them, and if they were NT, that could be difficult.


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01 Oct 2010, 1:21 am

Yes. I want my kid to be an unhappy, suicidal, friendless depressed loner. Hey at least i'd have a friend! For the first time in my life!

"i love you daddy!

"oh wow your just like my cat."



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01 Oct 2010, 1:49 am

Is that sarcasm?


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01 Oct 2010, 3:52 am

I chose yes, but really I don't know.

I'd know what my autistic kid feels and how s/he sees the world. But I don't know if I'd be able to bring autistic kid in the NT-world up. Classic autism would be a problem to me.
I don't know too if I'd be able to bring NT kid up. I don't know how NT's brain work. I don't have social skills and my kid would need them - you know, friends, school... How would I show her/him how to socialise, how to behave? I live my life generally lonely, without friends and meetings.


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