LK wrote:
I think it is in most cases. However, if you're an aspie, it could just be that you are not reading things that most people would find obvious. Yesterday, I was told that a certain male I am acquainted with had a big crush on me. I had no idea until it was explained to me, but after it was explained, I understood all the giant clues I missed. This is not the first time this has happened, and I never would have figured it out on my own.
I'm sure this is the major difficulty that both male and female aspies have.
I know that there have been quite a number of occasions where I have found out later (too much later) that not only did I miss all sort of signs, but also I did not reveal enough to give the guy in question any hint that I might be interested.
So the conclusion I draw from this is that women are expected to be subtly encouraging, and this is what the majority of guys expect to see.
It does help to explain some things, since I always thought it was guys who 'made the first move', but it seems most guys won't do that until they are fairly sure there is some interest.
(This applies to most situations outside teen peer-group relationships.)
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Plus some aspie females can be just as blunt too. With some people theres just no such thing as subtlety its more like a hijack
I doubt many of us have any idea what we are supposed to do.