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17 Oct 2010, 6:13 pm

I don't do this. I'm naturally pretty neutral towards people I first meet.



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17 Oct 2010, 6:19 pm

A company that I used to be involved in had this secretary. I could tell that she was the stuck up kind by the way she looked. Well, it didn't take long before I was right!



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17 Oct 2010, 8:02 pm

I just remember when I first saw my nanny on the first day she came over to do her job, I got bad vibes about her and didn't like her right away. I was right.



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17 Oct 2010, 10:42 pm

techn0teen wrote:
Everytime I have that feeling, I find out that person is a douche.

I listen to it. For a person with autism, I have this uncanny intuition that I need to listen to.

I always give people a chance. But then if it looks a like douche, talks like a douche, and acts like a douche, it is very safe to assume it is a douche.


Good point.

Just before reading your post, I was thinking about earlier posts made that mentioned how we could give off the wrong vibes that put people off. Asperger's being what it is, I believe that it takes our ability to understand others' body language and that causes us to not apply it to ourselves, because there is some sort of a lack of rapport. And because we don't fit in we lose our self-confidence and become introverted-like.

All the social skills that I gained in order to more easily fit in, I learned at work, where I worked with hundreds of people for 4-8 hours a day. I actively paid attention to the vibes that they each put out in reaction of mine, and analyzed what was said. I recently realized that I am losing my social skills because I am now working on the night crew and I have been keeping myself inside while not working because of my back problem affecting my gait, which has been bringing down my self-confidence.


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17 Oct 2010, 10:44 pm

Yes I do. Usually they turn out to be okay but every once in a while there's someone who lives up to my negative expectations. Oh well. :/



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18 Oct 2010, 12:45 am

I think both NTs and aspies do this, as I have had a lot of people do that with me. I recognize that when I do it, it's because the person has triggered something subconcious in me: a person I didn't like who looks like them, a "type" that used to pick on me in high school, etc. I force myself to get past that and give them a second chance, sometimes I am pleasantly surprised. I figure I would want people to grant me the same chance, so do unto others and whatnot.....



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18 Oct 2010, 11:00 am

This person turned up at my Grandmother's house once and my first impression was that this guy was scum, he then opened his mouth and confirmed my initial impression. He was one of those parasitic lowlifes who live off the kindness of others. He was pressuring her about her medication. Her husband stepped in though, so the guy shut up. I wanted to put his head through the coffee table but that would have upset my grandmother because she doesn't like violence so the guy left unharmed.



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18 Oct 2010, 11:55 am

David Cameron, smug git needs a slap around the face with a trout



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18 Oct 2010, 11:57 am

Laz wrote:
David Cameron, smug git needs a slap around the face with a trout


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18 Oct 2010, 12:03 pm

Innit breadwin



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18 Oct 2010, 12:09 pm

Laz wrote:
Innit breadwin


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[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7h92DALSM_A[/youtube]

There's loads of this stuff :P



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18 Oct 2010, 12:17 pm

That reminds of when they came up with that new party logo of theirs

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18 Oct 2010, 12:18 pm

LOL :lol:



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18 Oct 2010, 12:59 pm

Give yourself more credit, first impressions most time are not stupid assumptions. Everyone gives off body language by everything they put forward and display. When you meet someone your radar is on full scan. If you get a bad vibe its probably right. trust your instincts.