Young adults- how many of your parents agree with diagnosis?

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To those age 16-28
Do your parents agree with the diagnosis?

My mum does. My dad died before I even knew about AS.

how's australia? do you think your aspergers or autism has a bigger effect on your ability to function based on your location in australia? I am not sure how they would be about it but I am told it's a pretty neat place.

My mother thinks that I have it 'very mildly' (she cannot accept that I could have something scary like autism) and my father thinks that I only have the social aspects of it, but in a few years I'll grow out of it and be normal, according to him. My father pronounces it like "Ash-burgers" and says that he's going to knock the 'ash' out of me.

My mom was the one who pushed to get a diagnosis so I suppose so. My dad isn't very involved so I don't know what he thinks.

It took several darts flung at a board to figure out that I was none of the above of what my psychs were saying. I was in the air force and they tried to explain everything as just POST TRAUMATIC so my mom is content with that. And Im old enough to make my own decisions so it doesnt matter to her whats wrong with me. She's taking vacations while Im staying locked in my room. Great job ma!

PS dad died when I was nine so his opinions is worthless at this point...

My parents agree. But my psy does not. F*** France and its psychanalysts.

I don't know whether other females agree with me, but I think generally Aspergers looks milder in females than in males, I think females are better at learning to fake it which makes it much easier for people to assume that everything is ok. I put a lot of effort into learning to fake it when I was younger and it isn't so obvious now although people still perceive my anxiety. I think generally its human nature for people to question something that they can't obviously see.

My mother says that "at first, she didn't believe it, but now, she doesn't know." Which on the one hand is good, because uncertainty is better than dismissal, but on the other hand... my mother works in the psychiatry field (though not a psychiatrist). I'm not awfully confident in the field as a whole now because honestly, hadn't they ought to be able to recognize things like that? (Incidentally, I was diagnosed three times by three different people - a doctor, a psychologist and a psychiatrist - without letting my parents know at the time.)

My father doesn't believe Asperger's actually exists. He's the same way about ADHD, a diagnosis my brother has had for about ten years and for which he was successfully medicated for the entire second half of his school career. I've ceased to pay attention to his opinions on the matter.

I think parents vary and there are some who are always looking for what is wrong in their kids whilst others see that there are issues but cant being themselves to believe that there is anything wrong!

My sister is a psychologist and believes that I have Aspergers but that its not severe and I would probably agree with her it's not disabling as such, there are lots of things that I find difficult but equally there are lots of things that I can do quite well. I think people have a misconception that if you have Aspergers it would be blindingly obvious to them, but often it isn't.

Incidentally my Dad believes that Aspergers is a mental illness too...

Parents...

Both of my parents agree with my diagnosis. They were relieved when I was diagnosed, because Asperger's explains a lot of the behaviors and thought patterns that they never understood before.

My parents both think that I have it, but every time they mention it they feel the need to make some comment like, "very very mild" or "very high-functioning". Ok, I still meltdowns a couple times a week like I did as a child (actually I think it was a lot more often as a child), and not long ago I spent an entire class curled up with my sweater over my head, nonverbal, because the location of the class was unexpectedly changed, but I guess that's still very very mild.

Recently I mentioned that i was having a very difficult time due to overload and meltdowns and my dad was like, "What, you can't suddenly have become a low-functioning autistic!" I mean, I know I could be a lot more severely affected, but I don't think it's mild either, things that other people have no problem with are very hard for me! So it seems like they are saying, "Yeah, we'll admit you have problems, since it's pretty undeniable, but only as long as we're allowed to insist that the problems are so mild that it doesn't count that much and we don't have to be ashamed of you."

My mum does, my dad seems to think it's something I can "fix" by acting differently. Ironically, he acts very Aspie himself and scored high on the AQ test.

My mom does, my grandmother doesn't understand but accepts it and the rest of my family thinks nothing's wrong and that I'm just acting.

My parents accepted the diagnoses but mom says I don't have true AS and it was just to get me through school. Then she acts like I do have it. She also says I can do anything but that is BS because no one can do anything. Can everyone be a astronaut, can everyone be a veterinarian? Can everyone be a mathematician? Can everyone be a fashion designer or a game designer? Can everyone be a engineer? See not everyone can do anything. Can we all fix our computers or our car? Can we all fix our own plumbing or wiring?

Or maybe she means I can live a normal life. Uh so can other aspies, they get married and have kids, have jobs so what does she mean the real ones are more limited? Perhaps she thinks they're not real aspies either?

But there are other aspies out there who do better than me and make better money and have a better job than me. I don't think it makes them any less aspie. I don't know what their struggles are.

My mom says I didn't meet the criteria and then she says I do meet it but I slip on and off it and my symptoms come and go. Well I had a speech delay and I do think I am PDD-NOS than AS but I see aspies with that diagnoses and they don't seem AS either. They seem more autistic or milder. My psychiatrist decided to put me in the AS category.

I have never asked her everything about her contradicting information she tells me or even asked her what is a true aspie. Other aspies I have met seemed normal too and I didn't see their symptoms. Some I have seen but not a lot.

My mom believes I don't have AS and have PPD.

My dad is pretty oblivious, but he sometimes seems like he has AS..like his strong fascination with trains.