I have very curly hair--it's on the coarse side, too. I wore it in dreadlocks for about 10 years because it was just so hard to manage otherwise. My work make me cut them, though and now I keep it pretty short (chin-length in the front, shaved in the back). I really like it, though. I can rub some gel in it and scrunch it and go--no time at all! (I'm not much of a girly girl. No make up or fancy shoes or anything. The more low-key, the better).
I like wavy, curly, shaggy hair on guys, too. Guys with excessively styled hair are not my type at all.
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