Serious Trouble Getting Over Things

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I don't mean just big things, but minor stuff as well.

For example today I went to a concert and bought a T-shirt there. I brought it home and it fits OK but it's a lil big. I can't stop thinking about "What if I'd gotten the smaller size? How can I get this in a smaller size?" and every time I look at the T-shirt now I just keep thinking about it. It's like a constant anxiety and I know it's silly and I can't do anything to change it anyway.

Do you think this has something to do with OCD or with Asperger's?

My father and I both have this issue. Also, if something breaks or if something runs out it needs to be taken care of IMMEDIATELY. We literally cannot focus on anything else until it is.

Is anyone else like this?

I am very similar. I think it's OCD, for me anyway. I guess you'd need to examine your thought process and what kind of anxiety you're feeling in order to determine if it's OCD or AS.

Yeah, I can't figure out what the difference is.

My dad actually has OCD. He has many Aspie traits as well, but I'm not sure if he is an Aspie.

I think this trait is more OCD than Aspie, because I used to be best friends with a guy who had OCD and this was a way of life for him. But I have autism and no OCD and I'm exactly the same way, only to a lesser degree.

It's immensely frustrating, though. When something happens like my computer stops working, I literally can't do anything until it's fixed. Or, at least, thinking about other things is a tremendous struggle.

Yeah, that's exactly what I feel too!

I have some OCD traits, but it is not as serious as what my dad has. It's not my way of life or anything,

Uh. usually they make t-shirts large on purpose i think, if you've ever bought a heavy metal t-shirt they never have them in Medium or Small sizes. i wouldnt let a t-shirt have that much control over your emotions, its just a shirt remember

Consumer placement practices are very real. you are probably suffering from, a very well planned out scheme by some in a meeting

What if you washed and dried the shirt? I think it might shrink some if it's made out of cotton.

I don't have a dryer. The shirt fits fine at the bottom but the neck doesn't lay against my chest. It like pops out and it feels really strange and irritating.

The point is I can never get this same T-shirt anywhere else so I wanted it to be perfect!

I really have issues...

I think I have trouble with clothes too.

This is me, exactly. My dad is the same way too. I think it's partially my OCD (I have diagnosed OCD but not Asperger's) and partially something I learned from my dad.

I know what you mean about little things too. I take forever to get over the stupidest things, like stubbing my toe, for example. Not because it hurts, not because I'm embarassed, but because I wasn't expecting it to happen and I don't like surprises.

Sometimes I am like this but not much. When it does happen, it doesn't last for weeks or days.

I used to have a problem with having to get something done now and it was very hard to concentrate on something else but I learned to not worry about things at the moment and I will deal with it when that day comes. After seeing my first ex like that, it taught me what it was like for other people when I am like that so I started working on it and got better. Now I am able to brush it off and I try and find something else to focus on, same as when I am having an issue with something, and it actually works. One time I had no internet and it wasn't working so I felt all tensed and stressed because I couldn't be online when I knew I could be doing other things and my husband was in bed sleeping and I didn't want to wake him up. I just had to keep messing around with it and then I gave up and decided to wait a half hour and then it was working again. I hated that about myself but at least I didn't freak out or have a meltdown like I used to years ago. That's why I say I have gotten better but I still get stuck so I try and focus on other things, finding something else to do and setting an issue aside. Sometimes it can't be fixed right away and you have to wait.

I also used to get very upset when I find something missing and not be able to calm down and it take me a while. I noticed one of my Gamecube games was missing but I figured maybe my niece and nephew were borrowing it. I do remember loaning out games to them but I didn't remember I also loaned out Gamecube games. I just set it aside and didn't worry. Even if they don't have it, I can always buy a new one.


PS shirts shrink in the wash so maybe if you wash it, it might fit you better. There are some things I never put in the wash because I am afraid the washer and dryer will ruin it. So I hand wash them and then I rinse them out.

This is a little off topic, but it took me a long time to get over the demise of the Routemaster in London. I've gotten over it over the past 5 years, but I haven't forgotten. I even have one on the top of my TV and I don't flash back to December 9th, 2005.

Thanks for the replies. I was still worrying over this this morning so I called my mom and asked if T-shirts could be brought in the way pants and dresses are. She asked me "Are you okay?" So I guess I have a problem!

I think I just need to know that the issue can be fixed. Then I will feel better.

As soon as my mom lets me know if the tailor can do that, I'll be over it.

Yeah, that's the way I am. I need to have things taken care of NOW. Other people do seem put off by this, but I don't understand how they can just let problems sit.

Well if you get a bill in the mail like a phone bill, how can you fix it if the phone company is closed? You would have to wait till business day they are open for you to call them and tell them their mistake they made on the bill. That's why some things can't be fixed right away. Same as when you decide to open your other bills and you see a mistake and you can't call them because they are closed so you have to wait till tomorrow to fix it. Or if something in your home broke and you needed to hire a maintenance, they can't come there right away so you have to schedule for them to come over and fix it and it can take a few days. Same as when I couldn't get my internet to work and my husband wasn't home or he was sleeping and he knows how to mess with things better than I do so I had to just put it off and wait if I couldn't figure it out. I did give up and then I decided to try again and the internet was working again. All I had to do was wait a half hour.

Sometimes my husband wants to do things now and I tell him we can wait till we get home to do it like today in the car he was messing with paypal on his phone and couldn't get it to function well and I told him we can wait till we get home to transfer the money to his bank account. I didn't want to wait in the car when we arrived at the store as he is messing with it downloading some program just so he can use paypal wasting my time just because he couldn't wait. Luckily he was able to put it aside when we get to the store and he only messed with it when we be in the car. Sometimes it's better to put things aside and worry about it later when you get other stuff done. So that's what my husband did and he waited till we were in the car before messing with it again. It sure saved us time.

As my dad has taught me, there is nothing you can do about it if it can't be fixed right now so it's a waste of time to be upset about it and worry. One time I locked myself out of the apartment but because I had an appointment, I didn't worry about locking myself out and decided I'll deal with it when I get done with my appointment so that's what I did. I had to stop at my husband's work to get his keys so I can get in our apartment and it cost me a $1.50 just to get them from him because that's how much I had to pay for parking and it does cost money to park downtown. That's another example there of why things should be put aside and not worried about for now. But I did go digging through my purse when I was at the office waiting and I did see I left my keys at home but knew I would deal with it after I get done with my appointment. but I had a meltdown unfortunately afterward because I wasn't sure how long it take for them to find my husband because I also forgot my phone at home so I couldn't call him and I didn't know his number. So the people in the building had to look for him to get him.

I can be like that. I have to tell myself to just stop and do something that will make me forget about these thoughts.