musicboxforever wrote:
I have some pretty horrific scars from being in a road accident and its unbelievable how many people don't even notice. I sometimes have to point it out. I worked with a guy for 2 years and he didn't even notice. I suppose if the scarring was on my face people would notice more. Some guys think it's really cool though and are slightly fascinated by it.
As I said, It all depends. Personality can easily help me get over scarring.
to be a bit more specific, self-mutilation DOES put me off. I can try and help a woman I have feeling for stop it, but if she doesnt, then she gets crossed off of the "prospecting" list. Now if it is from an accident it really doesnt bug me, and as for abuse, id have to take a REALLY good look at her personality. I have issues dealing with other peoples emotional baggage and Id at least like to know her "mental chessboard" before I decide.
I am not a nurterur. I have tried and failed at that quite a few times. I may be verbally rough but it is usually to help drive a point home. I just simply prefer to be straightforward in my communication.