NT an insult?

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Isn't the autistic spectrum defined as disorder/s (with positive/negative attributes) and so beyond, or outside the range of, what is considered functional or "normal"/"typical" traits, behaviors, and neurology? I don't think it would make sense to say these were disorders, or ways of being, outside of the "non-spectrum". "Non-spectrum" is only in the negative.

I think it seems fair enough to discuss the traits and behaviors of what is considered "normal" or "typical" neurology or "mindset". I don't think that would then mean it's ok to insult all "NT's".

My husband gets angry when I refer to him as NT. Really, really angry. He can't articulate why this upsets him.

I don't like the us vs. them mentality that I often see here as well as on many other autism sites. I know this might be considered a radical view, but I don't really view people as either normal or on the spectrum most of the time. I see each member of the human race existing on some sort of continum with quirky/odd people on one side and hypernormalized people who can't tolerate any kind of difference on the other.

I say this because I know plenty of people who can have AS-like traits, yet definitely not fall on the spectrum...some of the people I'm friends with or have dated had perhaps one or two characteristics of AS but hardly the whole picture...and lately I think I fall into this category as well. I see AS and autism as manifestations of quirky and odd behaviour being pulled towards one extreme where it is so significant that it causes an effect on one's functioning.

Just because someone is NT doesn't mean they don't struggle socially or with other aspects of themselves...I know plenty of people who aren't on the spectrum who do this. I know, however, that there is a certian subgroup of so-called neurotypicals whom just don't accept differences in people well, and I think the brunt of AS frustration is directed towards them, because no matter how you explain something like AS to them, they just don't get it.

I only use it because it takes a lot to say or write 'non-autistic.' I may mean it as an insult in certain situations but I feel so very different from the non-autistic world that I can't help but use it. People always give me the 'no one is normal or perfect' line. And I respond ' not everyone is autistic either.'

I just want those who feel offended know that when I say it I just mean it to separate myself from the world. In actual fact I don't think I connect with anyone so I usually refer to people as Human.

This is just one of the reasons I choose to stay out of groups, even ones for Aspies.

Is it a real? Can 98% of the population have enough in common with their neurology to be typical of anything besides not being autistic? I highly doubt it.