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24 Dec 2010, 2:21 pm

Weiss_Yohji:

My advice to you depends on a couple of things:

1 - Is Aspergers the ONLY thing about you that puts women off, or is there something else, e.g. your weight, employment situation, etc? If there is something else then you obviously need to sort this out in addition to Rhapsody's good advice (except the alcohol bit - you don't need Dutch courage).

2 - How many women are you actually meeting day-to-day? If the answer is 'not enough' then you obviously need to change your lifestyle so that you meet more women.

These 2 points may seem very obvious, but the best advice in these situations usually is. There's no super secret technique that's guaranteed to have attractive women throwing themselves at you!



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24 Dec 2010, 2:29 pm

this isn't cave times, you can't just take women :roll:
and how do you know you're more deserving, anyways?!



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24 Dec 2010, 3:50 pm

I suppose you could get depressed if you see couples and you can't find someone to be in a relationship with though you want one.



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24 Dec 2010, 3:54 pm

Kilroy wrote:
this isn't cave times, you can't just take women :roll:
and how do you know you're more deserving, anyways?!


QFT



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24 Dec 2010, 4:03 pm

people here are always saying they want a girlfriend more then other people...but why do they feel they are more deserving?!
they don't know these strangers, you can't assume everyone but you is horrid and she deserves better (and saying that, what makes them better)
why do they deserve this? because they try?
everyone has to try, to one degree or another
everyone has hardships in life and its selfish, and stupid to think you are the only one with problems and deserve things handed to you because you are disabled



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24 Dec 2010, 4:18 pm

Logic wins again



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24 Dec 2010, 4:27 pm

I'M A WINNER!! !



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25 Dec 2010, 12:40 pm

The ugliness in this thread is so disheartening (shudder).

It also explains very well why some of the guys here can't find a date or friends :(.


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25 Dec 2010, 8:27 pm

Sallamandrina wrote:
The ugliness in this thread is so disheartening (shudder).

It also explains very well why some of the guys here can't find a date or friends :(.


aww come on, I just pointed out logic...

or did you mean the winner thing?
yeah that was for me, i admit that lol



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25 Dec 2010, 8:45 pm

Kilroy wrote:
Sallamandrina wrote:
The ugliness in this thread is so disheartening (shudder).

It also explains very well why some of the guys here can't find a date or friends :(.


aww come on, I just pointed out logic...

or did you mean the winner thing?
yeah that was for me, i admit that lol


LOL - I wasn't referring to your comment, of course. I've never seen you expressing the wish to beat and rape someone or implying that hate and anger make you more deserving than others.

Someone should find a fancy a word for this attitude :P - an equally ugly twin to Schadenfreude.


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25 Dec 2010, 9:04 pm

I am alone because...well I don't really try lol I am not in a relationship mentality right now, I have other things to sort out in my day to day, then worry about that.
People here think women are like a genie, that they will solve all their problems, I mean in the past I have said the only reason I ever wanted a girlfriend was to fit in, but...I don't really care about fitting in anymore-its not gonna happen, girl or not
instead of causing me and her unnecessary problems because we're not compatible, I just learn to enjoy the life I have
using someone to make yourself feel better makes one an ass



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25 Dec 2010, 9:42 pm

Kilroy wrote:
I am alone because...well I don't really try lol I am not in a relationship mentality right now, I have other things to sort out in my day to day, then worry about that.


I don't know how old you are, but from what I remember you're having some other troubles right now, more painful than being single. And you don't make a fuss about it either. You might come across as a bit rough around the edges, but I for one like your courage.

Kilroy wrote:
People here think women are like a genie, that they will solve all their problems, I mean in the past I have said the only reason I ever wanted a girlfriend was to fit in, but...I don't really care about fitting in anymore-its not gonna happen, girl or not
instead of causing me and her unnecessary problems because we're not compatible, I just learn to enjoy the life I have
using someone to make yourself feel better makes one an ass


Sure, the whole logic is flawed, but I try to cut them some slack on that, since I think it comes from immaturity and lack of experience. What I can't understand is such seething hate and wishing ill on people they know nothing about - who they are, what are their struggles, what efforts or sacrifices they made to get and keep what they have. They're so dismissive of everybody else's problems and suffering and sure that everything others have just fell into their lap out of nowhere. Add the assumption that they are more deserving and comments like this:
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It's been at the point where I've even felt like assaulting couples and taking the women for myself.

and it should be obvious why girls won't want anything to do with them.


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25 Dec 2010, 9:53 pm

yes, and if I mention it, I get called a troll or told I have no life lol
(yes I had digestion problems-where I wasn't able to eat much without feeling really sick, had to quit my job, etc) got better and will begin work again in the new year.
I never try and say I am all great, I have my problems and understand 100% if someone would be put off by my strangeness, its not their fault
its just how they feel, you can't force someone to like you, just because you think you deserve it
I admit to being unkind sometimes but seeing some of the crap I do here...its as good as I can get, really,



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25 Dec 2010, 10:08 pm

I'm glad you're feeling better, Kilroy :)

Happymusic made a very good point on a different thread:

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Hating others because of your own problems is completely illogical. It's like me hating people with more money because they're not coming to my house and giving it to me. They know I want it. Why don't they just make with it? I'll say thank you and smile and everything. wtf?


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25 Dec 2010, 10:27 pm

I think, they feel since they have AS-the world is harder for them, so should be compensated by the forces that be (that most regularly belittle) to simply give them what they feel they deserve and in their own diluted minds, they will be happy