Is it easier for aspie women than aspie men?
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Talk about shutting someone out so quickly.
LOL! See, it's all your fault, BacktothePile
Honestly, menintights, how is that different than the same selection process women do when they see a bald guy, a fat guy, etc.? People who chose other people visually are going to do the same kinds of things.
The process is the same.
This thread is about who has it easier.
So I'm betting the point was that men do this far more often, no?
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A woman has only to be presentable, act decent, and show interest.
If that was the case, there wouldn't be tens of millions of both NT and Aspie women who meet this description who are woefully single for years on end.
The man must bear the full brunt of rejection time and time again from strangers who simply do not wish to even know them. Fifty strangers and 49 rejections to get one date. Then rejected after one date. Without being given a chance, rejected after one meeting. I cannot fathom shutting someone out so quickly, and have never dated someone once who showed interest that I would not want to date again.
Is being rejected because of how you look
by men who do not wish to even know you
not a reality average and ugly-looking women face every day?
There seems to be a real disconnect between what an average woman's life is like
and the perceptions of the men here.
Women who get approached out of the blue by strangers are being approached because of their appearance.
It stands to reason that this is extremely uncommon thing for a stranger to do unless said woman was exceptionally striking.
Women who are approached in other situations are being approached once someone has gotten to know them better,
though appearance probably plays a role here as well,
and usually it's because they have managed to come off as friendly, sociable, and approachable-
not traits that come easy to Aspies.
Maybe we need to take a field trip over to the women's section and talk to the dozens of women who've never had a date in their lives.
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Talk about shutting someone out so quickly.
LOL! See, it's all your fault, BacktothePile
Honestly, menintights, how is that different than the same selection process women do when they see a bald guy, a fat guy, etc.? People who chose other people visually are going to do the same kinds of things.
The process is the same.
This thread is about who has it easier.
So I'm betting the point was that men do this far more often, no?
If that was his point, it wasn't a clear one -- why would men do this more than women?
My point is that this is already factored in, and that is equal, and not a tipping factor either way. Other factors, already mentioned, tip the balance in favor of women in terms of who gets approached, constantly.
Maybe we need to take a field trip over to the women's section and talk to the dozens of women who've never had a date in their lives.
Agreed, but perhaps they could come here? I wouldn't want to invade that section with my rhetoric.
Also, why are they not on this part of the site? Are they uninterested in dates, or have they given up? If the former, are they still relevant to our discussion if they don't want company?
Maybe we need to take a field trip over to the women's section and talk to the dozens of women who've never had a date in their lives.
Agreed, but perhaps they could come here? I wouldn't want to invade that section with my rhetoric.
Also, why are they not on this part of the site? Are they uninterested in dates, or have they given up? If the former, are they still relevant to our discussion if they don't want company?
Maybe they don't want to have to put up with the men complaining at them about how they have it more difficult
AS much as I don't care whether men or women have it easier (all I know is that I have it difficult) I just want everyone to understand that we all have our views on this subject, and all this arguing doesn't seem to change anyone's opinions. I would advise everyone not to keep feeding these threads, but I suspect that people actually enjoy the fight, so maybe not.
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Maybe we need to take a field trip over to the women's section and talk to the dozens of women who've never had a date in their lives.
Agreed, but perhaps they could come here? I wouldn't want to invade that section with my rhetoric.
Also, why are they not on this part of the site? Are they uninterested in dates, or have they given up? If the former, are they still relevant to our discussion if they don't want company?
Maybe they don't want to have to put up with the men complaining at them about how they have it more difficult
Maybe... But if we don't hear that side, then we only get evidence that reinforces our bias, correct? Because right now, I'm not seeing a whole heck of a lot of "I can't get a date" posts from women here (yes, there are a few) vs. the male volume.
Maybe we need to take a field trip over to the women's section and talk to the dozens of women who've never had a date in their lives.
Agreed, but perhaps they could come here? I wouldn't want to invade that section with my rhetoric.
Also, why are they not on this part of the site? Are they uninterested in dates, or have they given up? If the former, are they still relevant to our discussion if they don't want company?
Maybe they don't want to have to put up with the men complaining at them about how they have it more difficult
Maybe... But if we don't hear that side, then we only get evidence that reinforces our bias, correct? Because right now, I'm not seeing a whole heck of a lot of "I can't get a date" posts from women here (yes, there are a few) vs. the male volume.
Or perhaps they just don't like discussing relationships, whatever their status.
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Maybe we need to take a field trip over to the women's section and talk to the dozens of women who've never had a date in their lives.
Agreed, but perhaps they could come here? I wouldn't want to invade that section with my rhetoric.
Also, why are they not on this part of the site? Are they uninterested in dates, or have they given up? If the former, are they still relevant to our discussion if they don't want company?
Maybe they don't want to have to put up with the men complaining at them about how they have it more difficult
Maybe... But if we don't hear that side, then we only get evidence that reinforces our bias, correct? Because right now, I'm not seeing a whole heck of a lot of "I can't get a date" posts from women here (yes, there are a few) vs. the male volume.
So.you form your opinions based off your personal perceptions of who complains the most based on a FORUM.
Telling.
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Maybe we need to take a field trip over to the women's section and talk to the dozens of women who've never had a date in their lives.
Agreed, but perhaps they could come here? I wouldn't want to invade that section with my rhetoric.
Also, why are they not on this part of the site? Are they uninterested in dates, or have they given up? If the former, are they still relevant to our discussion if they don't want company?
Maybe they don't want to have to put up with the men complaining at them about how they have it more difficult
Maybe... But if we don't hear that side, then we only get evidence that reinforces our bias, correct? Because right now, I'm not seeing a whole heck of a lot of "I can't get a date" posts from women here (yes, there are a few) vs. the male volume.
That's because when such a post does crop up, it's shot down by a chorus of males shouting
"It's easy, all you have to do is look pretty, not be too awkward, and go shirtless in public!"
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