Telling my Dad Im an Aspie, Without telling him he is?

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I want to discuss my situation with my dad
I am pretty sure he is an Aspie
He just seems to have made it so far
And I dont think this would be good news
Hes my dad but hes kind of slow
I got cursed with smarts
The kind that make you aware
Of everything
Too much
But he has settled in
I wish not to unsettle
Plus being alike we both get angry alot at each other
Him and my little brother are the worst
My brother is a social butterfly/stoner/lazy ass
My dad cant stand it and melts down often
He cant even figure out his computer half the time
I dont need him getting confused about his brain computer

Why do you want to talk about this to your Dad? I feel you have every right to talk about this with who you want to but I'm curious about why, it will probably help with how to know why.

I agree with LostAlien. What are you hoping to achieve?

Tell him straight out that you're an aspie.

I would suggest you to tell him that you're an Aspie and to explain him what it is. He will probably figure out soon that he is just like you.

He is always out of the loop
But it always angers him
He doesnt understand that he has a tendency to be nosy
And he over reacts real easy
So I feel bad that me and my mom talk about it all the time
But he doesnt know
Maybe letting him figure it out is good
But I have had the hardest time recently
While finding out all this info on AS
This house is already a constant stress zone
Things are hard and I dont think now is the time to make it harder

I forgot
I bet you all can relate to this
I have my little worlds
Each with its rules
And I cant take a world out of whack
My house world
Is not an easy place to share in
I know its probably not as bad as i feel it will be
But my brain wont let me disrupt things

Don't take this the wrong way, but you are 26 and live at home. I think he already has a pretty good idea that something about you is unusual. I don't think you are going to surprise him if that is what you are worried about.

No offense, but it's not your place to tell other people you think they have something like AS. You're not a neuropsychologist. You're not even officially dx'd yourself. You could be wrong about yourself, and thus about him as well. This is irresponsible and it's disrespectful toward your dad.

If he wants to explore the possibility that he has AS, that's his choice. He may very well not care or not want to know. It's not your right to thrust that onto him.

I know I know
Thats why all of this is so hard
I dont like having any influence that could change people
It bugs me
The signs in him are much more text book than what I see in me
He goes on and on about cameras and motorcycles
Cant stay in room with others for too long
And tends to stand and stare
And be just super awkward
I dont know how he made it through the navy
But I have learned over the past few years
We are very much alike
And I wish I had someone like me around
I in no way wish to force anything upon anyone though
And hate that I am undiagnosed
It makes me feel guilty being here sometimes

Frankly, your writing style and use of the term "Ass Burgers" makes me wonder if you are an elaborate troll. 109 posts is true dedication if that is the case.

I wish
If I could get away from my computer
I gladly would
Everytime I leave
I have a new idea I need to get out
Im sorry if I did something wrong though
I just get very enthusiastic about some stuff
And the assburgers is just me remembering
How I used to hear the word
And also I want my custom rank

What are you afraid will happen if you tell him?

What if you were to approach it as something like: "Dad, there is something about me that I want you to know. It's important to me that you know this, because I want to be able to share this part of myself with you. I want to tell you because I will feel better if you know this about me."

Do you think something like that would work? Then you wouldn't really be saying anything about him or what you think of him.

You don't get a custom rank until you have 1000 posts.

Yes I have a long way to go