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Do you like to socialize?
Yes 15%  15%  [ 13 ]
No 10%  10%  [ 9 ]
Sometimes 56%  56%  [ 49 ]
Hardly ever 19%  19%  [ 17 ]
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09 Jan 2011, 5:59 pm

Do you enjoy socializing. I sometimes enjoy it. It depends on my mood.



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09 Jan 2011, 6:09 pm

Sometimes, depends with who.

Eventhough I practiced so hard to be able to, I dislike doing so most of the time.


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09 Jan 2011, 7:19 pm

Depends on what the socialization is.

Intellectual socialization = yes
Small talk = no



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09 Jan 2011, 9:15 pm

It depends on whom I'm with, what we're discussing, and what kind of mood I'm in.

I strongly dislike small talk, though.



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09 Jan 2011, 10:40 pm

Not really. I only do it occasionally and only because I feel like I have to because other people do.


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10 Jan 2011, 10:38 am

No, because most people at my school aren't worth socializing with.


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10 Jan 2011, 3:51 pm

Occasionally. It depends on the person and the situation. There is always some degree of discomfort and anxiety involved in socializing, which is why I typically don't like it.



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10 Jan 2011, 4:58 pm

IceCreamGirl wrote:
Do you enjoy socializing. I sometimes enjoy it. It depends on my mood.


I feel like that.

With my moods, sometimes I really, really don't want to. I mean, I like the idea of socialising, and I even like talking to certain people from time to time. In school that is, I'm usually too exhausted from the week to do anything much after school and I need at least some time to stim in school.

Sometimes, I feel bad because I know I should be socialising with my friends and, yet, I feel worse if I do and tend to avoid it. I feel like I've lost one of my closer friends because she wanted to add more people to our friendship group and I wasn't comfortable around them. But, since I have physical scars from one of them, I don't think that's too ridiculous. Really, the distance was created by me because I felt that I was dragging her down. So, I let her go. I have other friends.

I feel like I should talk more, and then feel bad about not feeling sociable and which makes me even more anxious about the whole affair and unable to converse. I usually try to engage in my special interest at those times. My social skills aren't that bad, until I try to talk to someone. :P

I'm no good at small talk. Awful, in fact and most of my conversations with my friends are intellectual. One thing I find bizzare is that more people refer to me as a friend than I do them. I have a few friends and a bunch of people I'm obligated to talk to. My idea of socialising seems to differ from that of the mainstream. On a particually conversational day, I consider 5 - 10 minutes suffice, maybe a bit more if it's particually indepth (usually about school or books).

If it's someone else's conversation, provided it isn't too boring, I like to listen it. I think I'm supposed to contribute, but I prefer to just listen and then leave when I feel like it. My friends have become accustomed to me leaving mid-conversation, now.

When I talk to people I don't know (on the occassions I'm feeling more 'chatty' and realise my mother won't be too happy if I haven't even tried) I seem to have a stutter and when I'm trying to keep the conversation up it's very much question and answer and I feel like they're bored. I'm quite paranoid (and have been called up on it) about people being bored or having misunderstood me, so maybe it's just in my head because people have told me that they're actually interested when I've thought they were falling asleep on me. Or maybe they were being polite.

Also, I ramble a lot, which doesn't help; I seem to either talk too much or too little. Usually in the form of periods of minimal speech followed by a random outburts before returning to being quiet.

I haven't felt very sociable since well before September, although, I did have a reasonable sociable couple of months last year. By my standards. Which isn't very sociable at all.



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10 Jan 2011, 9:00 pm

Firstly, my sociability depends upon who my company is. I can be quite talkative if I in the company of somebody who I can discuss issues that of personal interest. I can not even pretend to be interested in sports, so this rules out majority of my peers. I do stammer considerably, and this issue only worsens if I am intimidated by the company.

I do wish to be more sociable, and I do desire the ability to conform. However, I do enjoy socialising sometimes, and this is the option that I selected.


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10 Jan 2011, 10:12 pm

Helixstein wrote:
Firstly, my sociability depends upon who my company is. I can be quite talkative if I in the company of somebody who I can discuss issues that of personal interest. I can not even pretend to be interested in sports, so this rules out majority of my peers. I do stammer considerably, and this issue only worsens if I am intimidated by the company.

I do wish to be more sociable, and I do desire the ability to conform. However, I do enjoy socialising sometimes, and this is the option that I selected.


You never stammer when I talk to you on skype.


I enkoy socializing if I'm with a person or group of people that I can talk to. I prefer multiple people because I don't like to be on one side of the conversation having to actively contribute. I get afraid I'll run out of things to say. With aspies, I rarely get stressed because I know they undergo the same stress, so really, I'm on even turf.



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10 Jan 2011, 11:12 pm

ShenLong wrote:
Helixstein wrote:
Firstly, my sociability depends upon who my company is. I can be quite talkative if I in the company of somebody who I can discuss issues that of personal interest. I can not even pretend to be interested in sports, so this rules out majority of my peers. I do stammer considerably, and this issue only worsens if I am intimidated by the company.

I do wish to be more sociable, and I do desire the ability to conform. However, I do enjoy socialising sometimes, and this is the option that I selected.


You never stammer when I talk to you on skype.


I enkoy socializing if I'm with a person or group of people that I can talk to. I prefer multiple people because I don't like to be on one side of the conversation having to actively contribute. I get afraid I'll run out of things to say. With aspies, I rarely get stressed because I know they undergo the same stress, so really, I'm on even turf.


Of course I do not stammer on Skype talking to you, as I feel comfortable talking to you. I tend to stammer when conversing with somebody I feel uncomfortable about.


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11 Jan 2011, 10:06 am

Depends mostly on who I'm socialising with, what we're talking about, why we're doing it, and my mood.



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04 Feb 2011, 3:36 pm

I don't really like to socialize when I'm in a bad mood.



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06 Feb 2011, 3:40 am

Same as poster above.
If I am in a bad mood I don't want to socialize. If I am sick then I don't want to socialize. If I am tired I don't want to socialize. If I am even hungry or thirsty or I need to go to the washroom it becomes harder and harder to socialize. Any combination of these things make is harder for me to socialize.

Though I am a stickler for learning. If I have to talk to someone to learn something then I will. Because talking can be a very fast way to learn things. Instead of looking through several pages of a book you can ask someone. It is like an automatic google search which takes you to exactly the correct page.



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06 Feb 2011, 8:02 pm

I love it. Just wish I was better at it.



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06 Feb 2011, 10:32 pm

I wish so badly I could just be that kind of girl who walks up to people and starts making friends with everyone she meets. But no, I'm stuck in the back of the room being the "kinda cute, mostly creepy" chick who reads too much and only hangs out with one other person on rare occasions. I miss it when people would just randomly hug me for no reason at all. Back then I hated it, but now all the physical contact I get is being punched in the face by my brother. Even when our Drill Team won an award and stuff, I was always left out of the celebration. Not that I minded; at least I had helped them earn it.


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